I mean, is it pretty much a definite when you meet a guy who socialises, drinks, parties and tries to get hot girls into a club for a living that he's going to be a player/f*ckboy? I met this club promoter the other day; he flirts with almost anyone but I'm not sure if he actually sleeps around a lot. I don't necessarily like him but am attracted to him, and was wondering if it's even worth it.. If anyone knows anything about this please do tell.
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I guess they'd either swing two ways. They are either players naturally because its their job and they enjoy it. Or they fake it a little and actually just want a nice girl to go home to at night. It's like fisherman, they catch fish for a living but i bet they get sick of it and want a burger when they're in port.
The thing about a good player is that once you have some attraction to him its virtually impossible to tell lol. Only girls that find him unattractive can step back and objectively look.1
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I wouldn't just assume that, necessarily. They *might* be players (or, more likely, wannabe players), they might not... The one thing that's much more consistent, though, is that they REALLY don't want to have a nine-to-five job.
They want to avoid the 9-5 life so bad that they'll do promoting instead... which, frankly, sucks.
Small commissions / low pay... glued to their phones ALL the time... intense competition... pretty much being on the absolute bottom of the club social hierarchy (below the actual doormen/security guys)... yeahhhh
Also, this isn't 1996 anymore, and promoting isn't nearly as much about actual *socializing* as it once was.
These days, promoters are much more likely to be spending most of their day on their phones/social media than they are to be spending that time actually socializing with flesh-and-blood people.
Really -- these days, it's more about being glued to a screen than anything else. Lots of them even do their recruiting/marketing through the internet, too, so they basically aren't doing ANY "socializing" of any magnitude.
Where is he located?
If he's in a party place where almost no one actually *lives* -- like, say, Las Vegas -- then, even if he wants to be a player, it's unlikely that he'll succeed. Just too much turnover, and no pretense of any reason for him to get to know girls better.
If he's in a city where the clubs have a regular clientele AND HE'S *REALLY GOOD* at his job (like he's the kind of promoter who can get you and yr friends a $3000 table for free, if you just show up and look good), THEN -- and pretty much only then -- he might be able to leverage those perks, and hook up simultaneously with a bunch of his "regulars".
In any other situation, even if he WANTS to be a player... nah. Not enough leverage associated with that job.1
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