My biological father has contacted me on facebook and this is what i responded...
" don't really know who you are nor do I approve of the pictures you have of me on your facebook. please take them down. you are not my father and i will never consider you my father. please leave me alone. My life is perfect and i dont need you all that much so, as i said, please leave me alone. i'm 17 actually not 18, but that doesn't really matter. i dont need you. i'm actually very happy with my life. you haven't been in my life for a while. you're a complete stranger and i really dont have the time
nor the energy to meet someone new. for the sake of my "happiness" please leave me alone and never show up to my house or contact me or my mom
in any way. she's raised me well and i thank her for that. goodbye!"
Most Helpful Guy
I think it's very sad you felt the need to be so rude to him. It's a bit immature in my opinion. Personally, I understand your choice to be left alone and I also understand that you want him to take down the photos from Facebook. Putting photos on Facebook without asking the person in the photos for permission is always an impolite and inappropriate thing to do, even if it's your best friend. So there, I'm totally with you. I just don't understand why you felt the need to be so hostile towards your biological father. It seems like you deliberately wanted to hurt him and that is what I find rather childish. I get that there are unresolved issues and stuff like that but how is bitchiness gonna make anything better? I don't think your biological father deserves to be treated like this because nobody does. Now, you say he didn't pay child support but do you also know why? What if he just didn't have enough money? And what about this whole bribe at age 4? I don't get what you meant by that.
At any rate, it seems very narrow-minded to be sulky about such past actions for the rest of your life. If I was you, I'd give him a fair chance and meet him. If not to become friends, then at least to hear his side of the story. Because you should know that single mothers are extremely good at indoctrinating their children so they end up hating their dads. This is not a new issue. Sometimes, the mothers are right but sometimes they are not. It always takes two people for a fight and thus it's rather unlikely that your mother was always the innocent little lamb who was in the right for everything (even if your biological father did some stupid things). So if I was you, I would want to know his opinion too. Maybe it would make the whole picture much more complete and maybe you would understand some things about his past actions that you don't understand now.
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Most Helpful Girl
Girl I know how that feels. I'm adopted and my biological father called he still trying to get back in my life after 3 years. I don't know how he got my number but he called his self telling me he didn't approve of where my boyfriends hand was in one of my pics! I was so pissed, you come in my life for a year then disappear for 3. I told him he can kiss my ass, your a stranger in my eyes.
Anways lol, I would have did the same thing and he's going to feel like the dead beat he is. He might even apologize.1