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Most Helpful Girl
#mmhmm I'm not even gna lie, conflict turns me the fuck on.
Truth be told, I don't even really much understand the notion of "flirting" beyond... lighting small fires. lol. Constantly challenging the boy. I talked a little bit about the more playful sense of that, here:
Even serious conflict, though, gets me into a general state of *arousal* -- and, for me at least, arousal is VERY mutable.
If I'm screaming at my man, it's ridiculously easy for him to convert that into a totally different -- much more pleasurable -- kind of screaming. I mean, it's hydraulic, man. It's practically WAITING to happen.
In the longer term, too, I find that conflict is almost always productive, and almost always yields insights -- about myself, about the people with whom I had (or have) the conflicts, and about those relationships themselves.
There's ALWAYS something to learn from a conflict. Usually lots and lots of somethings.
• Things to learn about warning signs, and about prevention.
• Things to learn about other people's triggers -- especially unexpected ones, or out-of-proportion ones -- and about the associated personal history.
• Things to learn about maintaining my own grace, poise, class, and composure... or about my own weaknesses, if and when I ever fail to do so.
• Things to learn about my OWN triggers. Why does specific shit annoy me more than I think it should? What can I learn from this?
• Things to learn about manipulating people, and situations, in ways that wouldn't be possible in calmer circumstances.
• Things to learn about people's values -- which ones last when things get rough, and which ones crumble.
• Things to learn about people's true character, especially ugly sides they successfully suppress in most polite company.
• Things to learn about myself and my husband/sons/daughter/friends, so that we might end up even closer than we were before Shit Went Down.1
Most Helpful Guy
I like it if it's done in a mature way0