22 years old now, still have yet to kiss a girl. Going to get my Masters degree in Mechanical Engineering this coming year, and I have hobbies that give me loads of confidence (and at times make me feel on top of the world) that I do in my spare time. And some decent friends that I hang out with occasionally as well. However, I've yet to meet a girl who hasn't ultimately treated me like trash (outside of my family). I develop crushes on girls in my classes, and they use me or simply do not reciprocate the feelings. They seem interested, and then out of the blue start ignoring me, or say I'm a really sweet guy and fun to work with, but nothing more. It seems to me that I'm much happier making money and spending it on myself, and have my hobbies keep me confident and appreciative of the life I have than to constantly be downed by women who aren't into me. It's a waste of time, and makes me feel bad about myself. I want a woman to love but I've been able to be without one for my entire life so maybe it should stay that way. I'm past the point of frustration, and will probably end up hiring a pro at some point so that I can at least experience sex. I don't know, I'm kind of reaching the point of apathy. I used to pay way too much attention to attractive girls, only to have them use me for attention or scoff at me for even thinking I have a chance. Maybe most girls my age are just horrible people. I'm leaning towards just swearing it off for a while, and maybe something will hit me and change my mind when I'm older. I'm just trying to give myself the best opportunity to live a happy life without feeling heartbroken. If only I was asexual, I would be indifferent about all of this sexual stuff (duh), which is much better than never having experienced a single positive out of it.
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Its like trying to find your keys. You may have an idea, or know exactly, where they are; but looking for them always makes them harder to find. The more time it takes to find them the more flustered you get and the less likely they are to come to you. Sometimes you could be looking right at them, but you're so flustered and focused you don't even notice them. a lot of the time we only find what we want after we stop looking for it. Sometimes its right where you're looking.
At any rate you should't be LOOKING because you're just stressing yourself out over something that will eventually happen on its own, letting it stress you out makes you less likely to find a partner, even if the right girl is right there in front of you. I hope this helps, I've struggled with relationships too and it helps me. :)2
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