I work for a fairly large company, but their individual stores are small and cater to local communities. Its actually a really nice company to work for, however the middle/upper management are mostly female. Thats not a problem in itself but this last week I was attending some training as a supervisor and one of the subjects was workplace sexism and sexual harassment.
I agree everyone needs to feel safe at work and as such its an important subject, but im really pissed off because it seems as though there is one rule for women, and another for men.
A female colleague of mine made a joke and said that she's all for equal rights so long as the men do the heavy lifting (we deal with bulk bags up to 30kgs) and got plenty of laughs. I then made a joke and said i'll happily deal with the heavy stock if the girls make the tea... I got a fucking disciplinary because some stupid bitch complained.
How is it fair that women can stereotype men, but as soon as we say anything remotely sexist we get shit on. As a result I now refuse to help any of the girls at work when lifting heavy stock, and state that we are all equal and as such girls are just as able to lift heavy loads by themselves.
Most Helpful Girl
Indeed, it is unfair.
It actually reminds me of a time where I was asked, in front of quite a few people, if I was Mexican by an Asian girl. I stayed quiet for a moment, along with everyone else, and it bothered me because I was in the middle of a sentence, not really because I was offended. Instead of answering her question straightforward like I probably should've, I retorted, "Yes, are you Asian?" Right then, everyone around us was saying things like, "Wow, that's so racist!" :/ I had to stand up for myself, and responded, "Why is it okay for her to ask me my race, but not me her?" It made no sense whatsoever. Then they all fell silent again.
What I learned, though, is that people are too sensitive, and will easily get offended over trivial matters. Granted, these were 12 year olds at the time, but it still applies to many people of all ages. Sometimes it's best to stay silent, or if you're not afraid, speak up for yourself, because obviously no one else is going to do it for you.1
Most Helpful Guy
Oh wow, that's typical.. It's just the society we live in now unfortunately and no I don't think you're wrong. If they decide that you can do certain jobs just because of your gender why can't you do the same to them? I think you should address these concerns to the management, there's no equality so long as men do this or women do that. If they're serious about preventing sexism then they need to be fair to everyone and if you don't get a solid response from them you could threaten to take it higher. I've seen job ads where they openly say that women are preferred because they're trying to diversify their company... Now if that's not sexism then I don't know what is. Who cares if you're a man or a woman just do your job and I'm sure most women will agree that they'd like to be seen as equals and given a job based on their own merit and not because of their gender.1