Alright here it goes! I am 21 years old and I am a virgin. I never kissed a girl and I never had a girlfriend. I see other people younger than me having had sex already, have girlfriends and are driving at least used cars (its better than nothing), whereas I don't even have a drivers license.
People around my age have already a job somewhere such as cashiers and I cannot get hired anywhere and i keep trying it for almost a year now!
I am a college student and have 1 year left to get my diploma but the profession i have chosen has disappointed me and sucks and i dont like it. i was told lies, that programmers are needed people. here i am, a programmer and i am the best student according to my college and still unemployed. i start to feel like college is a waste of money and time and a scam. because if college would be worth it, i would be working right now.
recently i made a wave of job applications again and got the same day turned down from 3 places already.
no, my resume doesn't suck. i used to work before and then the company has cut down it's employees.
to top it all i dont even live in my homecountry! i live in the northern Eurasia in a populated city and yet there are no jobs. some people also complain about the lack of jobs and tell me that i shouldn't disappoint myself about not being able to get a job which i still do.
i wish i could turn my life around with a job so i can take turns in my pathetic and worthless joke called my life and get the F out of here and move to a different country where there are no shortage of jobs or picky employers. i hate this country and i hate this city!
and the other people around my age have far more success than i have right now and i envy them a lot for it.
i guess i am born a loser. am i really meant to be a loser and die a loser? is there going to be an end to this?
- shiet nigguh you are a true loserbornVote A
- no u are not a loser. yet.Vote B
- call yourself a bloody loser?Vote C
Most Helpful Girl
You're not a loser at all, which is why I didn't pick anything from the poll. As a matter of fact, in other countries/societies, this is normal and actually looked up upon. I'm proud of you, why do you feel the need to be promiscuous? Why are you a "loser" bc you're a virgin? Is it because everyone else isn't? Is it because of the overly-sexualized society that we live in? Ask yourself these questions.. you're mature now and old enough so your first experience will most likely be much better than these dumb little kids who sleep around just to do it
Don't do something just to do it.. and don't feel bad. Take pride in where you stand.. I think purity is a beautiful thing2
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, don't worry about girls and sex yet. I'm 26 and never kissed or dated. So what? That will come when I feel ready. Same for you. There is no schedule or deadline. Everyone goes at their own pace. Second, if you are searching for professional jobs in programming i suggest you start with a volunteer job on something more simple. I am looking to become a professional SQL Server development or something around that. I started with being a volunteer teaching older (elderly) people on how to use computers. Things like email, Skype, word, excel, etc. I got references, some experience, and it still had at least something to do with my profession. Try a similar approach. Getting a job that pays is easier when you got experience by being a volunteer or intern. Don't go for the gold right away. You have to take it step-by-step. Also, if companies don't respond, don't get discouraged. They get tons and tons of application they probably don't have the time to go through all of them. You can also try online freelance jobs. I use 'upwork'. Check it out. And it's summer in Eurasia which means the market is slower or more slim. So don't give up.3