I don't know how to be happy and optimistic, I'm stuck at a menial job I'm over qualified for, surrounded by gossipy people and having to see my "ex" (or whatever he is idk) and having no friends makes it more unbearable. I deal with really bad anxiety and depression and it keeps me isolated from everyone, and I can't afford medication neither do I want to take it. I'm 25 and I just feel like I should be farther along in life. I realize I have a lot going for me (a stable job, car, living rent free, college degree) but i still can't see it that way because I'm miserable at my job and my anxiety keeps me from enjoying life and progressing (new job, grad school, friendships, relationships) I hear life is supposed to be fun but not in my case. I don't know what else to do because it's a daily struggle that doesn't get easier. I hear of people that grow out of their anxiety and I've hoped it would be the same for me but it's getting worse. I'm just venting not really sure what I'm looking for...
Most Helpful Guy
Everyday you need to wake up and focus on the positives in your life not the negatives. In this one post you talk over and over again about what you perceive to be negative attributes in your life and you are letting it rule you.
Focus on your positives whatever they may be - car, job (be thankful you are employed and making money no matter how shitty it is--thousands of people would take that position from you in a heartbeat), degree, etc. Then everyday challenge yourself to find something new to be positive about - something you did at your shitty job you were pleased with even if no one else was, you made a great chicken salad that say, your hair looked movie star glamorous, whatever (these are just examples of course).
Focus on the positives in your life don't let negativity rule you. Make a decision to do that and it will help. I'm not a doctor but I think state of mind helps.1
Most Helpful Girl
hey there, you have clearly stated here a massive part of your daily struggle and negative influence upon you. your job with your ex and people you do not get along with. this will not allow you to progress out of depression it is a constant drain on you. living rent free? parents? could you leave this job and take anything even serving burgers, waitressing to remove you and promote you to a new path. you need a shift to allow yourself to build the strength to move forward. i would take a guess that you have felt this way for some time but it is getting stronger in you now you are 25, you are being driven to progress in life towards your 28 birthday. this is a universal drive, you can listen and use this push or ignore it, which you are not because you are here. when you are depressed your brain is functioning at a different level to what is considered normal its like you are fighting from below, alone barely hanging on to the edge, you sometimes could just let go and disappear from this realm because you are not connected to anyone or anything and everyday life is literally exhausting. my advice remove stresses and strains like the job involves build yourself up, make more seratonin naturally by exercise, nature, foods etc and keep good company that promotes you, the way you feel now is real no doubt, however, this is a chemical imbalance that life has created and your stuck, its lonely there, the deepest depths of hell you could ever imagine is a term i once used. i dont know if your a reader or believer in energy, spirit, god etc, the power of attraction type books are about positive mind changes. from a more positive view point now in my life, when your that low its like it hangs onto you with all its might and you have to fight your way out and the school of thought seeking help, councelling etc never worked for me, i had to do it... dont feel like your a failure and haven't accomplished yet you are so young and when you come through this you will be strong and will go on to great things, hope this may help in some way xx1
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