They don't know how that person feels, so they automatically judge. Most people who have been suicidal in the past or are currently suicidal don't call other suicidal people''selfish.'' Most of the time they just say they don't want the person killing themselves and they would be sad if they do BUT they won't think they are selfish, an asshole, etc. because they understand how that person feels. People have never been suicidal say things like'' You are selfish,''''You are crazy.''
Most Helpful Girl
I think they just don't really understand it, but they're also not entirely wrong. The problem is it's not helpful to a suicidal person to just tell them they're being selfish or that at least they're not starving in a poor country, etc. Minimizing their struggles is more damaging than constructive.
I've been suicidal. There were two weeks in my life when I was so far into it that I was making plans to carry it out. Researching the most effective, least painful way, and buying what I needed for it. It's scary thinking about it now.
I guess it was "selfish" in a way, but I wasn't thinking about it vindictively and really didn't -want- to hurt anyone else, I just couldn't see past the massive level of depression I was going through. The hopelessness and exhaustion with being alive is hard to explain.
Also, what saved my life was actually being the opposite of selfish. My mom called me randomly one day, sweet and loving the way she is and asking to make plans with me for the next weekend, when I had a deadline of 3 days in my head, and I realized I couldn't do it to her. She wouldn't be able to take it, and that's what made me come clean to her and seek help.
I still have issues with depression and passing suicidal thoughts sometimes, but never again at the level it used to be, and I've found ways to deal with it so that it doesn't consume my life the way it once did. Antidepressants helped a lot when it was really bad, but I've been able to stay off them by working on the root of the problem and feeling better about myself and my life.0
Most Helpful Guy
Truth is people who call suicidal people are selfish themselves. It's really hypocritical.
The only reason they attempt to stop people from thinking about or committing suicide is to make themselves feel better as if they'd done a good deed. Or so that they won't wake up everyday thinking it's their fault you died, aka guilt.
It all boils down to guilt. That is the only reason people 'save' others, to avoid the guilt trip.
When I was younger, I used to think suicidal people were crazy and they had no reason to do so. I even talked a few people out of it. Now, years later having walked a mile in on the other side. I real0
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