I am pissed off right now. I had forgotten one of my favorite jackets at my friend's house and she wore it, totally ripping the seems on both sleeves and ripping the arms. No offense, but she is a big girl. She has a wide set with bulky shoulders and meaty arms. Nothing wrong with that. She's seeing a detrition and doing her best to improve her weight but I'm pretty sure it's genetic and there's not a whole lot she can do to avoid it. Her mother is a very heavy set woman and she's always had the body type that looks amazing if you bust your butt to stay in shape but once she stops working out, she kinda sorta gets a double chin and starts putting on more weight everywhere. Did I mention that this jacket is made out of pure silk? I am really pissed off. I've had another friend who is bigger just take it upon herself to borrow one of my camis to sleep in and she stretched it so much that it never looked right on me again. I don't want to be rude and say "You're too big to be borrowing my clothes. We are not the same size." but I lost my cool and messaged her on FB saying, "You know we are not the same size. Why would you try to wear my favorite jacket without asking my permission then destroy it? It's fucking ripped all over the place."
How should I handle this situation? I am really pissed the hell off. She's already been slacking but now I'm finding out that she destroyed my jacket and didn't even tell me she wore it. What do you think? Do you have any advice?
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This is what I think. I think that you should talk to them. They shouldn't be borrowing your clothes whatsoever if they know that they are heavyset and that it won't fit. I don't think a real friend would do that without asking. If it was me I would have asked / looked at the size before wearing it and I would ask my friend first since I knew it was hers. Even if I didn't and I looked at the size I would ask around and see because it wouldn't have been my size. And if she didn't tell you she wore it don't be friends anymore they don't deserve to be friends with you if they do that.1