So I was hanging with a group of friends, mostly my guy friends. They were playing around and wrestling and stuff like that. Eventually I joined in a little bit, and I gave one of my guy friends "purple nurples", which is what they called twisting each other's nipples. It was stupid and silly, but they were all doing it, so I did it to him without thinking about it.
But then he grabbed my nipples (through my shirt, he didn't try to touch my skin) and twisted them really hard. It hurt really bad and I felt really violated and kind of betrayed. I tried to laugh it off but I couldn't really.
My question is, was it wrong for him to do that? It felt like I was assaulted. But he thought it was fair because I technically did it to him first. I feel terrible. Part of me feels victimized, and part of me is mad at myself for feeling that way because I might have deserved it. If I feel violated, does that mean I'm not treating men and women as equals? What do you think? Was it wrong for him to do that, or wrong for me to be upset about it?
Most Helpful Guy
You asked for it and you got it. You committed a sexual battery of him and then he committed a battery of you. Why are you feeling like a victim instead of a perpetrator?7
Most Helpful Girl
So why did you do it to him? He just returned the favor. I mean you can tell him that you didn't like it, but I just dont see how you can twist someones nipples in good fun, but then feel victimized when they do it to you...6