This may be a silly question but I don't know. I was severely emotionally abused growing up, which effectively destroyed my self esteem. I've always been pretty dainty and sensitive, flinching when someone raises their voice, freezing when someone scolds or gets mad at me, not saying my opinion because I hate confrontation, obeying basically every order I get, playing every situation safe, often choosing to not attempt a task rather than risk making a mistake, etc.
Anyway, I want to change. I want to be confident and capable and brave and badass (lol). How can I work towards that?
Most Helpful Guy
Boost your confidence!! Lol I'm sorry about your childhood, you're not completely broken there's hope for you! Facing your fears helps. making mistakes and learning from them is always grand. and learn to be more assertive! even if you're scared. I don't know how else to help you😅1
Most Helpful Girl
I completely understand your situation, I have been in the same situation most of my life. I believe that you have to find something in yourself that you do like (everyone has something whether its intelligence, soccer skills, playing the piano well, your pretty hair, your nice body, etc.). there has to be something that you have accepted about yourself and you need to focus on that. Mine was school-smarts. If you can focus on one good thing about yourself then you can have more confidence and confidence builds on itself over time. Then you also need to surround yourself with people that make you feel good, not people that drag you down. Try to focus on yourself and not on other peoples problems even if it is hard. Lastly, take action to change the things you can change while accepting the things you can't. For example, if your grades are falling then bring them up but if you got an F last year then accept that. When you accomplish things and work on making a positive change in your life then you will feel stronger and in more control. GOD LUCK!(:1