I hopped on the bus when there were available seats. So I sat down and started scrolling on my phone. On every stop, more and more people started coming in and it was pretty crowded. I didn't really pay attention though because I was hooked on reading something on my phone, plus the ride home is quite long for me, so it's not like I have to pay attention to the stops.
Once we arrived at a pretty popular stop and a lot of people started hopping off, this one older woman started scolding me for not giving up my seat to someone older and for being on my phone instead, as she left the bus.
I get her point but... I really was in my own world and that's just who I am :/ if someone had actually asked me to give up my seat I would have gladly done it. But I didn't pay attention. So if she wanted my seat, she should have asked. Instead of yelling at me after the fact, when getting off the bus and it was too late for me to even do anything.
What do you think? Should she just have asked or should I have paid attention to the passengers who hopped on?
Most Helpful Guy
Consider this a lesson in manners. Those doesn't seem to be taught very well these days. Why should that lady have asked you for a seat? Why weren't you considerate enough to pay attention to others? Instead of thinking about YOU first, think about others first. THAT is where so many fail.
You already admitted you weren't paying attention to what was going on around you and were totally engrossed with your phone. That shows indifference to those around you. Expecting THEM to interrupt you if they needed a seat is poor thinking. Being considerate and paying attention to older individuals who may not be able to stand very well on a moving bus shows you're being considerate. How many times has someone asked for a seat and gotten attitude about it afterward or once the individual left, all they did was complain about giving up their seat? That's why older people won't ask.
Some have stated the obvious - that you're not obligated to give up your seat. Instead, pay attention to what's going on around you instead of your phone. YOU make the 1st move and offer someone older the seat. If they decline - fine. At least you showed them you were thinking about their needs above your wants. I'm in my 50's, and if I see an older person looking for a seat, I get off my fat rear and move, offering them the spot.4
Most Helpful Girl
Don't know where you live. But when I lived in NYC, the general rule is to be courteous and give your seat to a disabled, pregnant and the elderly period. Those kind of people that did what you did, would often be rude, even to people who are younger than me or of my own age. Overall, the lady was not looking for you to give up your seat for her, she was saying about how rude you were by not paying attention and being on your phone period. You may not have an obligation to do so. But people these days thinks tradition is old, and today being rude and out for yourself is far too accepting. Even I don't agree with people of this generation and even my own generation. That is one of the reasons why I don't want to live here anymore. Can't stand the people and this way of living. Anyway I hope this answer your question.
Again, I understand why you would be confused and a bit ticked. But you have to remember back in her time, people was more respectful, traditional and courteous. Do you see that today? Rarely and not likely. If you don't want to accept the lesson she was trying to convey, then expect it a lot from other people who treat you the same way. That's all I can tell you.1