I recently moved to a new city and I've been very lonely. I left my best friends, my family and everything that kept me stable. I have really bad social anxiety and I dont know how to put myself out there and stop feeling so lonely. I really want to put myself out there and start making new friends and maybe even meet someone to help me stop feeling lonely. But I am so scared of rejection and being left completely alone again. Any tips
Most Helpful Guy
My starter advice would be to work on your self-esteem first. Making friends is tough enough when you move to a new city, but you are going to cause yourself more anxiety if you don’t first deal with your confidence. There are numerous exercises, which can help you improve your self-confidence and this will build up your personal courage as you go out to make friend.
The next step would be to sit down and make a list of the items you’re interested in. What kind of hobbies do you have that you would like to meet others with similar qualities? Once you know these then you would be able to good Internet searches for what’s in your area that would cater to these hobbies and interest. If you have a Facebook account or other social network accounts you can use these to link to those sites and you can send messages to find out more about them to determine if they really are something you’re interested in.
If you then have the information listed above and you’ve worked on your social anxiety, then the next step you would or could try would be to go out into your local area and just meet others in person; you could go to a club, social gathering, mixers, raves; these types of places where there is a large group for you to socialize with. Not to mention you can go on other social application sites to get to know others for friendship purposes.
Most Helpful Girl
I have social anxiety also, but what helped me was to get involved with community theatre. Sounds counter productive, but thespians can be quite welcoming especially in the community environment. Just volunteer as crew for a production to get your foot in the door. Next thing you know you will be invited to cast and crew parties consisting of a small group of people that you got to know in a safe place over a few months. I have made over 50 friends volunteering at my local theatre and have done everything from, crew to co-directing. A cool side effect is my social anxiety has deminished tremendously.1