My brother is 26 years old. Our grandma has raised us since we were teenagers. We have both struggled with drug and alcohol abuse most of our adolescent lives. She moved to a new strata place this summer and doesn't own the place. My brother has a history of getting extremely intoxicated and making big scenes out on the front lawn. My grandma is getting older and just wants peace and quiet. He has now moved back in with her. She said she wouldn't put up with his drinking but once again... this is the case. He says the nastiest things about her on the phone to me. He calls her a lazy bitch because she wouldn't drive him to get dinner after work. She had driven him around for a total of probably 3 hours that day. He was totally drunk when he called me tonight complaining about her. I usually try to just keep things level by not agreeing or disagreeing with things but I had really had enough. He said don't you agree? Like, she's just being lazy and saying she's tired as an excuse right? I was like uhhh... I dunno dude. I just kept saying I dunno he's like... well sorry to drag you into this I guess... I'm the only one in this family that works for anything (SUCH a lie *cringe*) So, I said okay well thanks for pointing that out. Basically just because I wouldn't agree with him he throws me under the bus too. I feel that he's a spoiled, babied, alcoholic that drains our grandma financially and abuses her emotionally. I don't know what to do because honestly he intimidates me. Also, if he doesn't get his way or something doesn't go the way he wants he immediately threatens suicide. What can I do to help my grandma?
What can I do to help out my family situation (elderly abuse)?
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Is there any way you can separate from grandma and brother from living together? If not, you may consider providing physical barriers in her place, so he won't be able to harm her.
Your brother clearly needs help. You should try talking to him about his problem when he is sober. This site has some ways to go about it:
Depending on where you live try APS (adult protective services).0
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