I started working as an unpaid intern somewhere and now suddenly she's volunteering somewhere for experience.
Oh no she di iint
What is that supposed to mean?
She looks up to you.
But she has treated me really badly in the past. It's behaviour like this that makes me wonder if she looked up to me and hence was really insecure around me for that reason.
Thats honestly what siblings do. Drive each other crazy, but deep down she loves and looks up to you.My younger sister is/was the same way with me.
But my mother too said once that my sister didn't love me. I always thought something else was going on. That she didn't want me to be better than her.
Have an opinion?
Well its good you motivate her even if she don't want to admit that you do.
The thing is, do I really motivate her? Or is she just afraid that I'll move forward and she'll stay stuck. She hasn't worked a job in 5 years.
Oh wow. I'm thinking she is young and trying to keep up with you. Never mind my comment lol.
I'm 23 and she is 27. I got to fix my age on this site. Do you think she is envious of me?
She can be with you being younger than get. I just hope she will want the best for you abs not envy you later in life.
What do you mean by she can be with you being younger than get? I think this envy thing is pretty dangerous. Like once I asked to borrow her laptop and she embarrassed me in front of everyone saying, "If someone wants to use a laptop they can use their own." It was so insulting, my aunt took advantage of that moment from then on realizing we don't get along. I just couldn't understand why she did it. Then my mother said, "You did it out of jealousy, you were afraid that she might see something on your laptop," (probably like a reading list or something I'm assuming). I was like totally confused and it made me wonder why she cares even if I did see some book of hers
I meant to with you being younger to her. I know that's not a good position for you to be in. You being treated like you are the black sheep.
Hmm but aren't black sheep those that don't fit in the family? Assuming she is envious or jealous how would that make me the black sheep? Wouldn't it make me a victim of her actions?
You are right. I just don't know what you can do being in that position. Maybe an older family member can sit y'all down and have a talk. Just don't let her bring you down from the jealousy and envy.
Everyone in my family always takes her side, and when I point that out they say I'm jealous for thinking that. I was like lol this is so ridiculous, you favour her and when I point that out I'm jealous, it's a nut-ball
Just block them off because it's a distraction in your life. That will also stop c the games she's c playing when you don't give her any attention. Just focus on being successful and c getting your own in life.
Hmm seems like you envy your big sister
Huh? Where did you get that from
You don't understand lol. It's not me who volunteered somewhere, read my description.
Well in that case she really admire you
But she's always putting me down and getting happy when I'm sad
People criticized and put others down just so they can have the feeling of being superior so they can hide their own insecurities, i feel sorry for people who need to do that, it is so incredibly pathetic
Is putting down others about feeling superior or about being jealous of that person? I've never understood. I thought putting down others means you look down on them in some way. I agree it is incredibly pathetic and what startles me is people not feeling guilty about their actions when they do that.
It's about envy, but they feel superior when they put you down
The thing is, I've felt jealousy (or envy), towards someone, and I've never been good at hiding it. It's like something is burning inside of you and you get all mad and aggressive and annoyed if someone praises that person etc. It's an aggressive feeling.I know those feelings are wrong to have. I also know that putting that person down won't really mean that they are below me. So I don't even bother putting them down a lot of the time, I just wait for myself to get over those feelings because I know I'm the one whose losing out if I have those feelings in the first place. So I never really understood if others put you down because they just want someone to pick on or it's because they're jealous or envious. If they are, putting me down won't make that feeling go away anyway so what was the point?
Indeed, well i guess my work is done here
Okay but before going, would you still say she is envious hence she puts me down? I used to wonder if she looks down on me hence she picks on me.
Definitely, the reason why she put you down is due to her insecurities and envy
Ah thank you for clarifying that. I will learn to be a lot more careful around her in the future. Thanks!
Your welcome, take care
she's admiring her older sister.. its not a big deal:)
No no no. She is elder than me. She is 3 years older lol
that doesn't matter lol.. she just thinks you're a good role model.. be proud of yourself!!
I don't think so. She always copies me. Like if someone said my lipstick shade looks good on me (the coffee lady), and that it suits me, immediately she will go to the washroom to fix herself. I get confused like why does she do that? Is she envious of me?
LOL thats funny.. im not really sure what to make of it. i definitely wouldn't be offended though
Ha ha I'm not offended. But I'm confused. I know she is definitely insecure but i'm not sure that's the same as jealousy or envy. Like I was talking to my COUSIN (lol) and she was trying to compete with me on that too. She was telling my mother oh he talked to me about this this this, (I was telling my mother he didn't talk much to me). I was like thinking... he's our cousin. Who is younger. By two years (to her) lol
lol ok now its sounding like jealousy.. lol 😂
I have actually never been able to tell. My parents never really believe she is jealous, but I know my sister is a pro at hiding her feelings. For example she always acted like guys are like not really something she thinks about. Then one day I came across her phone and it was like a diary note. It said something like, "I want to move to x city because of all the hotties there, but I'm afraid of my reputation," something something. We're both Indian by nationality. I was like... lol is she a little into white guys or something? Nothing wrong with that. I've been attracted to white guys enough times living in North America, they're adorable lol. But I didn't understand why she always felt the need to hide those things.
Mhm. The exact same time I work in finance she goes and gets herself a volunteering gig?
i was being sarcastic yo
lol. I haven't heard someone say yo in a while. It's a good word
Maybe she just thought it looked like a good idea from your example?
But she has sat at home for 5 years and hasn't worked and SUDDENLY I get a job and she volunteers? My parents think my behaviour doesn't affect her at all but sometimes I feel as though it's the other way around.
Why feel upset that she is out doing something. Maybe making a difference, because you inspired her to do so.
I'm not upset. I'm just curious. She is actually older than me by 3 years, and many a time has tried to compete with me. Both my parents think that she is so above doing that but I don't think so. Like why is she volunteering at age 27 at the precise time that I've finally gotten a job. I forgave her (even though she didn't apologize) for a lot of the things she did to me. But I've always been highly suspicious.
So what if she is?