Whenever I meet someone who I like or am hoping to befriend, I admit that I run a quick online search. Never with the intention to "uncover" anything; I just am curious to see what they're interested in, involved in, etc.
There have been several occasions where I've come across mugshots and records... drug offense/felony, aggravated assault... and I never bring it up - we all have pasts, so whatever. Sometimes I just wonder what world I'm about to enter, and who they actually are. I try to get to know them for how our interactions are, but I do end up thinking about things I've found, though...
I mean, aggravated assault... man. I don't know.
How would you handle this? I didn't grow up around people who had run-ins or arrests... maybe I'm just overthinking.
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Your not overthinking at all. You made a smart decision to do this. These days, you have to. Because you have no idea who your sleeping with, who you have kids with, etc. However, if you can't handle it, and you feel that you can't trust him. Just drop the relationship. In fact a person who trust's you would just tell you the truth so that your free to make a decision to stay or go. Not hide something as serious as that. Before god forbid you end up seriously hurt. If they changed, then they have to prove that. But now that gives you more of a reason to be very careful. So its up to you. But I can't deal with that.0