I like to work out in the gym, play racquet sports and volleyball. Gets me out, keeps me active, helps me feel good, look good, reduce stress, etc.. More often lately than ever, I am beginning to get uncomfortable feelings in women's locker rooms & showers like I'm being stared at, talked about, etc.. I'm a tone 38-25-36 and considered by all who know me to be a friendly woman. When I go to workout, its really more to workout than socialize (more because of time constraints). For health and distractibility reasons, I even went as far to have a custom sports bra made so my ladies don't bounce or jiggle during aerobics, treadmill, etc.. I kind of expect to turn guys heads on the gym and workout floors and am polite if anyone tries to start a conversation. Inside the locker rooms and showers though, it's beginning to give me the creeps.
To everyone: What do people think? Is this a normal thing I haven't noticed until now? Do any other women have that happen do them? Do guys do that too with other guys? What did/do you do to handle it?
Thanks in advance!
Most Helpful Guy
if your body is that hot then people will be interested, but then your interest is solely on the workout. So, even if you give a thought about doing something about people staring at you, I think you can;t do anything about it. So, it's better you concentrate on the work out...
if you start noticing and responding to things then guys/girls might approach you... if you are ignorant then it's no big deal
Most Helpful Girl
Among other things, I'm a professional fitness competitor. I'm not in stage-shape all the time (in fact, stage-shape lasts less than a day... and looks *awful* with clothes on)... but, I'm VERY noticeably physically fit, year-round.
I'm also accustomed to being stared at, pretty much all the time, because of my height (I'm over 6' barefoot... and, I'm a shoe whore on top of it).
... and my usual taste in clothing is pretty loud and obnoxious (see here -- girl's mho)
... so, yeah, honestly, after this many years I'd honestly be a bit perturbed if everyone was *ignoring* me.
Not perturbed in the "blow to my ego" sense... more like "surreal". Like, I'd wonder if a major disaster had occurred, or something. Lol.
So... honestly? If women are staring at me in a locker room, I wouldn't see it as any different than anywhere else.
As far as the catty comments you got --
I've spent a LOT of time in gym settings (obviously), and I've never been subjected to that sort of thing before. If anyone is thinking it, I guess they're just classy enough to keep their trap shut.
The cattiest comments I've gotten as an adult (teenage years were another matter entirely, of course) have been about how I "don't have to try" because I'm "a skinny bitch".
The skinny comments are on-point -- I was an editorial fashion model ≈20yrs ago, and I'm not much bigger now (other than breast augmentation, which filled out my *entire* silhouette and was easily one of the best personal decisions I've ever made). In fact, I'm still just at the border of "underweight" and "normal weight" according to the US government... even after 3 natural childbirths.
... But, those comments are super ironic, because I've spent my whole life wishing I WASN'T so naturally slim. I've always wanted to have bigger (natural) boobs, bigger hips, and a bigger ass, and I was insanely jealous of all the girls I grew up with who looked like video vixens.
I've NEVER had any woman make passive-aggressive comments about how I make her look bad, or "make it harder" for her, or whatever. I also have plenty of girlfriends who wear sizes 10-12-14 -- and look fabulous at their size, too -- and they aren't self-conscious around me either.
(I know there are SOME "friends" who try to sabotage each other -- like, offering rich food and drinks, "Here! Live a little, girl!" -- but, I don't hang with people like that.)2