Inspired by GAG's video.
Personally, I vote "Hell to the no. This person can still be nice even if the sole reason for rejecting was based on lack of physical attraction.."
- Yes, this person is not niceVote A
- No, this person might still be niceVote B
Most Helpful Girl
No- not at all. But I think it is only fair that we check in with ourselves on this standard from time to time. Now it isn't always a 'standard'. Socially we tend to like people who we think are like us. And then women strongly draw on unconscious scent cues in mate selection. Birth control has proven to interfere with that preference.
I don't know how many times I've wanted to like someone that way but can't. Not because I find them unattractive but I don't find them sexually attractive to me. It isn't usually physical but then agai when I like a guy it is never purely on looks it is a combo of things.
If you don't like chubby women I guess I can forgive that depending where n what chubby means. Saying a woman who wears a size 6 or smaller and is 5'6 or taller is chubby is equal to me saying I won't date a guy shorter than 6 feet.
Bottom line I think we all need to be realistic in who we find attractive and it can become abnormal and in that case you are only hurting you. I've seen people build up unrealistic version of who they think they should date from movies they watch. I'm not saying they are undeserving of that person, I'm saying that person doesn't exist.
These people will never know true intimacy that comes through the bond of sharing flaws and trustin each other. As soon as they realize the person is human and not an idea they run. Pedestal complex, they put the person on a pedestal they can only ever fall from because it is a made up version of who they really are only ever true in the others imagination.0
Most Helpful Guy
You are so right - Accepting their advances is cruel to the person as well as yourself - It is most likely at some stage you will break that person heart in the future so you are taking the high moral ground by not taking advantage of that person's feelings for temporary pleasure.0
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