I've recently began one on the eight of September and we can both honestly say we love each other. I've been in one before this and said i would never do it again but here i am. Whats your thoughts?
Most Helpful Girl
I will surely and definitely not engage in an online relationship without getting to know the person in "real life" first.
It's just a matter of authenticity. The whole point of being in a relationship (according to me) is to be able to include someone else in your daily life and create a stronger bond with them. You cannot really do that with an online relationship. You can try to, but it'd be done in a clumsy unnatural way if you try to do that on purpose.
And secondly, I know that many people would say that you can still get to know the other person really well even if you never met and I agree with that but only to a certain extent. It's pretty easy to control your reactions when you are talking online. Even if you don't try to hide certain things on purpose you still end up doing it without realizing that you're trying to twist what your natural reaction would have been.
There are many subconscious information that we get through a "real life" contact that we wouldn't get online and even though these things are subtle they indicates whether we're compatible or not.
It's also usually some kind of a trap. It rarely works out well in the end but you may get the impression that it's working out well because it lasts and whatever but most of the time it only lasts not because of "look how perfect we are, we made it through all that time together" but because we often cling to the hope that someday we're going to meet them. You may feel like you have an ultimate goal which is meeting them and that in time that you haven't met them in "reality" you don't really have the right to give up on this relationship because it hasn't reached its full potential yet... Therefore you don't stay because you like them, you stay because of an illusion you've been building up if you see what I mean.0
Most Helpful Guy
I don't count them as real relationships... you never see or touch the person.0