So me and my friends went to New York last week for a few days. One of my friends that's a girl is really attractive, big boobs, gorgeous face etc. She got tonnes of compliments. She got like 150 compliments for the 3 days we were there from boys and girls. My other friend is a guy and he's a model and very handsome and fit and he got no compliments.. I don't know it just doesn't feel right.. no wonder a lot of guys have low self-esteem. If any of you are from New York what is your experience with this?
Most Helpful Girl
We don't like complimenting men, not even those we find attractive, because then they assume we want something. So then they'll either ask you out or offer you sex. Very rarely has a man complimented me without wanting sex or a relationship. From complete strangers that is.
I asked a question here about complimenting men, and a lot of them said if it's not going to lead to sex or a date, they're not interested in hearing them. So pretty much the whole point of complimenting to them was in hopes that it leads to more, and if it doesn't, they don't care to hear it.
Lots of guys already misunderstand manners with flirting, "she said thank you to me, she must want this D" and then they proceed to make you regret being kind.
And this isn't to say EVERY man is that desperate, but too many are and it is just messed up they ruined it for most men.
I don't compliment strangers, that's pretty weird. But I have complimented coworkers, friends, family etc.
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Most Helpful Guy
There's nothing right or wrong about it. It's just the way it is - guys get less attention from girls than the other way around. It has always been this way.1