Why are we as a society always expected to be happy for others when we aren't happy in our personal lives? I'm not saying people should be bitter but why are people not entitled to their own feelings anymore? It's like if you lose your job, you have to get over it because your friend is having a birthday party or if you get a divorce, smile anyway because your friend is getting married. But how come the people who are hurting aren't allowed to have their feelings be acknowledged the same way?
Very rarely is someone who is ever happy told "It's not about you" yet we say it to depressed and hurting people all the time. Why?
By the way, none of those things happened to me. Those were just examples and I was just curious why we as a whole tend to act that way.
Most Helpful Guy
Story of my life... every day. I try to be happy for people but my life is miserable. I've never had someone who can snuggle with me every night or see every day. It's hard to be happy for other people or feel bad for them when their relationships don't work out. I have such a lonely life and I feel totally worthless to every girl I encounter.3
Most Helpful Girl
I think it comes from being taught that we should put others first and ourselves second, and we should hide our problems from other people as to not bring them down. Most people are taught this from a young age and its considered "nice" to put others first. Maybe it is nice I guess but I agree that we should put ourselves first. We should just draw the line at being unnecessarily negative.0