Most Helpful Guy
So instead of teaching the young about voluntarily cooperating , parents impose curfews that coerce the kids into cooperating.
Once they reach adulthood and escape beyond the grasps of their parents , this sudden newfound freedom can work against them if they are not prepared to be held accountable to their own lives.
It's a temporary solution that'll backfire eventually.
What parents should do is get a working relationship going with the kids instead of a tyrannical approach of "because I said so".
"Hey dad , can I go to a concert with my friends tonight? I'm going to be back home a bit late."
"Sure. Be smart. If you need me , I'm just a call away. Alright? Okay , get outta here you rebel."
And of course , they'll be smoking weed , accepting small squares of papers , having car sex or whatever. It's just teenage years. The only thing a parent can really do is make sure the kid understand the risk and benefit of their action , after that it's up to them to make the decision , it might not necessarily be what I would have done but kids are not here to live a life that I would have wanted to. They'll make mistakes , and some of those mistakes may change their lives forever but it's better if they are young and I can be there for them , help them , instead of when I'm old and they're adults and there's absolutely nothing I can do.1
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, I feel that teens should be in the house at a certain time. The world is a dangerous place. So many killings, robberies and raping going on. Its not safe for a teen to be out and about late at night after 9pm. But you dont want to seem like a overbearing parent. But they should not be out so late. Some teens get wild when they dont have guidance and structure ib their lives. And its not good.1