In a friendship, a relationship, for a certain situation..
And had the person you seeked reassurance from fail to give you that reassurance?
Most Helpful Guy
I think we have all done this to various degrees - One would be very fortunate to go through life without feeling that someone failed to give you reassurance. Next question is what to do?
(1) Take a step back and analyse, is it really an issue or are you just having a down moment, if it is just a moment let it go and see how it goes.
(2) You feel it is an issue - I would say to the person I feel something is happening, we need to talk about it and work it out. If you let lie in your head it will just stew and make it feel worse. It is a version of the have "Full/open and honest" communication advice.0
Most Helpful Girl
I ask my partner for reassurance quite a lot due to being diagnosed with anxiety, I usually feel nervous and crave reassurance about things. If it's a big thing, my partner will usually give me the reassurance that I need to try and calm down. Most often, however, with the smaller issues I get anxious about, he refuses to reassure me. He says that I need to decide on things on my own and can't rely on others to make everything better. He's never quite as harsh as I made it sound, but yeah, usually he will refuse to give reassurance and say I need to think about the situation and decide for myself. It does sound really cruel and heartless and I usually get upat with him when he does that but actually he's doing what my doctors have said is good 😂 It sucks at the time but it does help me calm down and learn to rationalise and deal with the anxiety for myself rather than ask him to deal with it for me, it feels pretty good being able to calm myself down. So not being given reassurance can sometimes be a beneficial thing, cruel to be kind 😊0