my ex is shooting up heroin he showed me his arms on Wednesday i care about him and i don't want him ending up dead because he overdosed on heroin. o don't know what to do i need help please
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You can't. Sorry. I've been in and out of the drug game since I was 14, mostly in. And I can tell you one thing: you can't save anyone who doesn't want to save themselves. You need to think about yourself. Because addicts will use up anyone near them until they're drained dry. Emotionally, financially. Any other way they can.
Tell him that you can't support him doing that and won't have contact with him until he straightens up and gets clean. That is the only way. Addicts are sneaky and clever and very good liars and manipulators. Don't listen to anything he says. Because he will promise you the moon, and you'll believe he can deliver. Maybe you could give him one and only one chance to get himself checked into rehab. But he will manipulate you. The only way you stick around is if he checks into rehab on a time limit. No other options. None. It's either that or nothing.
Reminds me of this episode of House M. D. "People like you, even your actions lie." Somewhere in season 5, I forget.
Yes. It's true that addicts need support from friends and family. But all too often this turns into enabling and coddling. This is not what he needs and will just destroy him faster.
He has to hit his rock bottom. And that's going to require him losing things. Probably a lot of people and things. You cutting him out of your life is getting him one step closer to rock bottom, which is a good thing. The sooner he hits, the less damage will be done.
Simply put, your friend is effectively dead, and you should view him like it. Trust me. I've been addicted to morphine. And when you use opiates, nothing else matters in the world. Nothing. It is like you are dead, and it does kill much of you.0