Why would you want to make things more difficult or make yourself into something that needs to be conquered, defeated or overcome? What ever happened to living with compassion, love caring and working towards a common goal and try to avoid obstacles instead of creating them?
In my eyes whole thing with being a challenge or playing hard to get is a childish mindset. It's the false belief that something given freely must be worthless and if you don't have to fight for it you will not appreciate it. People will throw away the most precious things if it's given to them freely. But if they have to give their blood, sweat and tears even for something half as precious, then they will treasure it.
Love is meant to be easy, not difficult.
Love is like breathing. It should be smooth, comfortable and natural. If it's not then there is something wrong with it.
show him discipline and a work ethic.. keep a routine that you stick to no matter what. You need to show him that life will go on and you will still have a smile if he is there or not. Be your own person! It will attract a lot more into your life than just a guy.
A strong, independant woman would be one that takes care of herself, and doesn't need a man for her own survival. She will never get stuck in a situation where she can't leave a man. She's with her man because she loves him and she wants to share her life with him, fairly and equally. That's all there is to it.
I agree with Sketchy, that most women use it as an excuse to be whores/strippers/arrogant pains in the ass, instead of actually doing it the right way. It's not meant to be an excuse to be a stripper. If that's what you're resorting to you're actually REINFORCING negative stereotypes about women instead of doing anything to show that you're a stand up chick.
If you're truly a strong woman, that comes across in how you act and people will perceive that from your actions and the way you carry yourself. Being a strong woman is something you are, not something you have to try to be to impress a man. Doing that would make you the exact opposite of a strong woman. A strong woman can get along on her own without a man.