I'm having a hard time getting to sleep, I need a bedtime ritual?

Give me ideas. Tea and a book? Yoga? Just washing my face and meditating? What do you do?

Ok I meant non illegal ways to relax.
Well I tried just relaxing with some sleepytime tea. Seems by the time I had my skin routine done after that I was almost out like a light. It was wonderful. Thanks for all the suggestions.


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  • From what I have read, heard or seen on documentaries here are some ways of helping yourself to fall asleep.

    I warm relaxing bath: The reason is not that the warmth makes you sleepy, it's the sudden change in temperature after the bath that will create that feeling of sleepiness.

    A warm-ish glass of milk with a spoon of honey (the honey bit is weird for me because it's sugar).

    A book can help, it is not meant to be the same as a screen because the rays of the computer or TV screen harass your brain and you will need a little more focus to follow the movie you are watching. In addition, complete darkness might increase your chances of falling asleep.

    Meditation, I have tried it once, it was interesting because I was in a lethargic state but didn't fall asleep although the couple of hours spent meditating gave me back a little energy.

    The best solution, is to try the thing that works best for you, and before trying to add something to your routine, find out what is the problem in the current one. There could be a thing you even a few hours before bedtime that makes it harder for you to fall asleep later.

    I hope it helps. ^^.

    PS: Masturbation would be fun, but would most likely not work, it's very different between men and women, you can orgasm a few times, we can go to bed real quick after.. from my pov you win. lol

    • I am actually mad at the negative rating.. it was still a serious answer and for me what worked was to have a warm bath/shower before bedtime, turn off the screen of the laptop but leave a movie on (just audio). I am happy that the tea solution worked for you (hopefully on long term) one night is not a success if it doesn't last. But honestly wth is wrong with my answer !?

What Guys Said 30

  • Keep a travel book next to the bed. Read a few pages or just look at the pictures.

    Yoga or stretching in the evening is a good idea; then settle in with tea and your travel pictures. If you have a cat, talk to the cat and have it settle in next to you.

    • UPDATE;; the cat is more relaxing than the tea..

  • I read, usually until I fall asleep, which is supposedly a bad habit... sometimes I'll do crossword puzzles or something like that.

    I used to play music, but the headphones were never comfortable, and I felt I was wasting power or battery life by accidentally leaving something on for those 6 hours.

    I go over my day, maybe pray, and go over the next days schedule.

  • I prop up on a pillow and read before bed. Sometimes I study flashcards because I learn faster by studying in the morning and at night.

  • I have a shower (refreshes me apart from cleansing) and drink a glass of warm water (no carbs like milk but the same effect - gets you to sleep faster by diverting blood flow to the intestines making your head drowsy).

    Reading or watching tele or radio / music etc can become an addiction apart from disturbing in your sleep w/o you knowing it while It's on :)

  • I sense that you are looking for a pattern that you can find some comfort in. SO lean into what you like most, it is what you will do the longest and it takes 30 days to establish a pattern that will last and only missing one night to break the habit.

    I watch TV and take care of emails for the following day, so I can sleep in if the mood hits me. But what puts me out is sex.. but that is a guy thing.

    Good Luck,


  • read a book or something on the internet that's interesting to you I like to research a lot of stuff like owners of big company's political stuff space and time the next animal or pet ima own. I love the net for that purpose alone XD

  • Many nights I answer questions super seriously on GAG (phone) until I fall asleep.

  • I make a playlist of soft, comforting music on my iPhone and listen to it to help me fall asleep.

  • Read something boring. It'll K.O. you in 5 minutes flat.

    Masturbating beforehand will also drain your energy levels so don't hold back.

    I don't see yoga making you fall asleep. Meditating could. I've always fallen asleep when I tried to meditate, works great!

  • I fall asleep listening to music and sometimes I masturbate

    • Seems an awful lot of people masturbate before bed.

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    • Well, it is effective. Orgasm for men creates a surge in homones some of which make us feel sleepy, and put most the muscles in a relaxation state. it's the same reason why some boxers are not allowed ( or asked not to) have any sex before a competition.

    • Yeah see for "men"...

  • I don't drink tea, it has caffiene in it. And yoga gets your heart rate up. So how will you sleep after that?. I masturbate to old girlfriends pictures and then cry myself to sleep.

    • Herbal tea has no caffeine. And you can do nightime yoga programs that just relax and stretch.

  • Yoga is sexy, so why not before bed?

    I workout before bed then leave my window open so the freezing air comes in, makes sleep easy.

  • It depends on the day for me.

    I usually take a super hot shower or bath (if the day was long). Then I have a drink, usually Russian Standard vodka or whiskey on the rocks, with a cigarette while sitting outside. It helps me relax, because I usually have trouble sleeping.

    That's just my ritual.

  • I drink 500 ml of milk before going to bed ...it works for me


  • Go to sleep an set an alarm at the same time every night. If you can't fall asleep keep telling yourself (in your head) "Go to sleep" "Go to sleep" over and over again and you will fall asleep if you keep doing that. Or force yourself to do extra homework or something boring and you will get really sleepy. Worst case scenario I eat a LOT and get really sleepy off that. Hope these work

    • Hmm been outta college for a few years so not sure how homework would help...

    • Umm maybe old college homework? Lol I don't know just stuff you find REALLY boring will put you to bed. It totally works

  • Just something you'll have to figure out for yourself...what ever comes natural to you, ya know?

  • I make a peanut butter sandwich and drink a glass of milk before bed. I'm trying to gain weight

    • Well for someone trying to LOSE weight that doesn't work lol

    • losing weight okay, yoga will be fine as long as your heart rate doesn't increase, so take it slow if you do.

  • i always find a vigorous session of sex or masturbation does wonders to help me sleep

  • Rubbing one off always works to get me to fall asleep :)

  • melatonin

  • I did not understand what you mean , if you want to sleep I would Tire my day all day long , thing I do is , wake up early do some hard workout , go to school , come home , HW (all of them no exceptions ) if I have class go , after I come from class I do my English HW and then I am so tired I just want to stay at my bed for EVER , if that still won't work . I would work out 2 hours before sleep , then take a shower , listen to music and fall asleep for the rest of my life xD I am so sleepy right now!

    • I love how people are telling me to do homework. I haven't had homework in forever lmao.

  • take a hot shower link

  • masturbation works for me. either that or read a book since reading is so boring.

    • so you didn't try masturbating? so disappointed.

    • Well I do that when I feel like it. But it works differently for women and doesn't induce sleep.

  • Ouch at your age you are needing this advice from the kiddos? Lol well... try a little herb tea, watch the news and then read yourself to sleep

    • I don't really know how it's from the "kiddos". And as for my "age" I routinely stay up till 4am and am tired of doing that.

    • Well there are many people from 16 to 22 here and I am assuming you have a bit more life experience than them. Reading makes me tired

  • Work out to get healthy so you can "rip down a joint and masturbate" (anonymous).

    Or get a Sage Pub account and read scholarly articles on sex and dating.


    I personally like to stretch and read my sage pub upside down besides recalling every letter from 100 to one backwards.

    • + masturbate upside down.

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    • Yup, and the best part is after you flip back to lying normally on the bed. Feels like landing off a space shuttle onto fresh comfy Earth. Remember to prepare the bed with extra fluffy pillows :)

    • I think I might have to try this I am intrigued

  • Rub yourself


  • Maybe relax and reminisce about things and how tomorrow can be even better. Some tea can also be good with that.

  • Rip down a joint and masturbate.


What Girls Said 14

  • I don't really have a ritual, but I typically read a little bit because it can make my eyes get tired, but that doesn't always work because sometimes I just don't want to put the book down. I take a shower as well, which makes me feel so more relaxed and clean. During winter, I might add a cup of hot chocolate or some hot tea (caffeine or no caffeine because caffeine doesn't really ever have an effect on me . . .) It all depends on what makes you relax. Sometimes, I listen to a playlist on my iPod that has soft, slow music on it and put it on low and then set my iPod to fall asleep after a few minutes and that can help. I guess you'll find what works for you best.

  • Something warm to drink and reading a book makes me sleepy. I usually hang out online, but that tends to keep me up instead :P

  • I hide under my covers and wait for the sounds in my house to die down

    (my house is always creaking---I swear it's wearing on my sanity)

    I think washing your face and applying a moisturizing cream :) and putting on aloe socks after soaking your feet

    It's like a mini spa day :)

    get a nice leather bound diary diary and scribble in it then tuck it away by your bedside table or wherever :D doesn't matter

    and that seems like a very peaceful night

  • Smoke a few bowls.

  • My roommie reads a book for about 20 minutes before falling asleep and before doing that she stretches, since she's a dancer

    I've gotten into the habit of drinking chamomile tea because it knocks me right out.

  • Warm shower.

  • I go on the Internet , then I fall asleep

  • Sleepy time tea with a bit of honey. zzz

  • weeeeeeeeeed.

  • I turn down my bed, shower, sit in bed and read, check my diary, then when I am sleepy I turn off the light and go to sleep.

    • Finally a decent answer.

  • What I've been doing is taking a warm shower before going to bed. Lets say around 11 pm I take a warm shower, and I mostly go to bed 40 minutes later. I know its not "right before bed", but it makes me calm and relaxed. Also very sleepy haha.

  • Weed is legal depending wherr your from and it works lol

  • Turn off phone and tv. Try to read a book

  • I like to heat up warm milk mixed with a bit of sugar, cinnamon, nutmeg and allspice.

    Books just keep me too stimulated