I like this girl, I know she likes me. She is married, I want to send an anonymous email. A few words: " Your beautiful" as the james blunt song goes.She'll know who sent it. Could I get in trouble? Is it too creepy?
I agree with the " she is married". Because it leaves me vulnerable in so many ways including the eternal laws of the universe.
She has approached me before through girlfriends. So, I know she is interested. I'm a stud, I can have pretty well any girl I want. It's just the way it is...
Women love my personality, charm, and mixed appearence. I'm a piece of work.
I guess I'll just leave her by the wayside for now...
I think the most sane and balanced response is the guy who said to be very careful. If a married woman approaches you, it is different from you going on the attack. Although, I would win either way, I might get a few scrapes here or there. No girl has ever said no to me. I am what I am.
I will admit my tactics are a little unorthodox. But, in the end they always come around. A challenge is always nice once in a while. Thanks again to good better best bad!
good better best bad, your right, they are judging me for asking a sincere question. I think there is a reflective quality to your answer. Life is not made of absolutes, there is a middle path. My best friend's wife just sent me an email: The girl believes I am the one, but there were many people involved and this made things very complicated. Even dangerous. I'll end with a caption for the hearing impaired: To stay married to someone when you love someone else is worse then adultery.
The email goes: " no words to say,no words to convey these feelings I have for you deep in my heart, safe from the guards of intellect and reason leaving me at a loss for words to express my feelings deep in my heart". Originally written decades ago by Tracy Chapman, and part of her Yearbook. She was the high school princess, and nothings changed! World War 3 Has already begun...
Married women are still available but VERY VERY dangerous territory. If she's being cold to you, then you know you shouldn't do it. However if she's kind of showing you that she's not in a happy marriage, then yes you can go ahead and do it. Again, tread CAREFULLY
Dude. If it's your best friend's wife then you are a bigger ass. And if she's a cheater well yes she will probably cheat with someone else but it still doesn't make your actions right and I hope you don't want something more serious than getting laid with this woman. Also, bear in mind that relationships are complicated and sometimes you don't love the person your with as much as you love someone else because guess what? That someone else doesn't love or respect you the same way as the person that you are with. I've been unwilling to settle into this type of relationship and guess what, I'm still single and contemplating that I don't want to die alone eaten by an Alsatian so I will give the guys who love and like me a chance instead of testing my luck and submitting my heart to further heartbreak and humiliation with men that are not interested. So yeah do what you want and don't ask people stupid questions when you've already decided what you want to do. So write a letter... No it is not creepy since you both like one another. Will it cause any trouble? Yes especially for her but since you don't give a sh*t really,why not? Just know it's not right and karma is a bitch.
A. She loves her husband and you will come off as a complete idiot. She may even show the email to him and you might end up without teeth as he husband punches your face.
B. She is into you is in an unhappy marriage... but instead of divorcing him she uses suckers like you to have sex with and get them emotionally involved. Plus its a complete lack of ethics and self love to do this to yourself cause if you ever do end up in a relationship you will be scared that your gf/wife will cheat on you.
Honestly, yes that is kind of creepy. But she may be flattered if she actually knows you. If you're just a far away admirer and she barely knows you, she may go running for the hills but it all depends. If she's attracted to you, if she has a relationship or a friendship with you, she may be flattered or like you but... she's taken already. You could ruin a whole relationship and at what costs?
You and her may not work out and then you went and ruined a relaitonship. If she has marital problems she should work those out first and either chose to stay or leave but don't be the determining factor unless there's already issues. I'm saying this because some woman are in horrible relationships, they're abused and treated like crap and they deserve better men but if her relationship is fine you shouldn't really be playing with fire.
Honestly... I think you should probably look for another crush instead of a woman whose married. I know that's NOT the answer you want to hear.. but I don't think you should send the email and she may be creeped out if she barely knows you and all you say is "your beautiful" that's a bit creepy. Usually if somebody is going to profess their love they put more words into it than that and plus she's married so... its kinda a double edged sword.
Not cool man not cool. Plus I had that happen once in college. I have no idea how dude got my name mixed up with someone else since it is so unusual, but he told me how beautiful I was. He then sent another one about how much he wanted to ask me out. Then another about how he loved to sit behind me and look at me. I told him I sat at the back with no one behind me. It was then he realized I was the wrong woman. At first though it was a bit creepy since he kept telling me weird things about him. OK they were only weird since I knew nothing about him, but still.
Jeez dude... what is wrong with you? SHe is married! I will admit to one thing. Some women are really fickle and sometimes their heads are not on their shoulders. As this woman has probably been married for a long time, she probably doesn't get told she is beautiful. I wouldn't go encouraging her and making her head big. You know why? Becuase she is going to have her mind on her anonymous lover and keep thinking about it. Women love it when guys are thinking about them and they tend to forget who they are married to. I say it is a little creepy and it will cause friction between her and her husband. Just look and don't say anything...even anonymously.
You don't want to be the source of a divorce now do you?
An anonymous email quoting You're beautiful would possibly freak me out and then I'd show it to my fiance and we'd both probably laugh our asses off. Don't do it. If she ever finds out its you, even if she's not happy in her marriage, you wouldn't even be up for consideration
Dude! Just leave her be! She's MARRIED. It's hard enough to like someone when you are married to someone else, WITHOUT providing her the temptation! Plus, unless you create a new email account with an anonymous name (which would be extremely creepy) your name would come up with the message anyway.
Yes it's too creepy,she's married after all. Though honestly, I don't really think this situation is real...after all, it doesn't make sense you'd send something like that to a married woman, but also, what would be the point of sending an anonymous letter if she'll know who it's from?!
First of all, she's married, second of all, if she likes you like said she does why not wait for the divorce and why must you be anonymous, and thirdly the song is called you're beautiful, that is all.
If she's unhappy in her marriage let her resolve it with her husband so maybe one day you can be together. E-mailing a married woman with some song lyrics is probably the most childish and stupidest thing you can do, you're not in high school nor she is single.
Btw you didn't need to have answers from us most of us said don't do it ! But you still chose as BA the answer you wanted from the start. You just needed someone to reassure that it'sokay so that you don't feel guilty. And it's not ok.
how would you feel if you were married, regardless if you are happily married or not, would that bother you if another man would send your wife an anonymous email saying "You are beautiful"? at the end of the day you'll do what you want but if she comes to play with you wouldn't it scare you if the same cycle repeats itself but this time its you who gets betrayed?
Right so let me get this thing straight. You're willing jeopardize your "best friend's" marriage just so you can get a few f***s with his wife? You're willing to terminate your so-called friendship up when there are millions of other girls waiting for a chump like you.
Listen to me carefully, it isn't worth it - it never will, even if it seems to you that his wife isn't having a great marriage. Adultery is a criminal offence in 23 states, not only will you be criminally charged but you will lose that reputation of being a "charmer". Girls will start to overlook you and want nothing to do with you.
Not only that but your best friend will bury you in his past i.e will never speak a word to you again.
I agree with most people here you're a brat who needs to be taught a lesson. For someone between the ages of 36 to 45 it makes you seem very immature.
"To stay married to someone when you love someone else is worse than adultery" This just sums it all up. How so? Please tell us.