I've had open heart surgery and lots of scars on my body as a result, never had a boyfriend and wonder how they would react, am sure they would be curious but at the end of the day men are all about the visual...
If I told the person I was involved with he would definitely feel sorry for me and if I do not...i've kept a big part of me from him.
No win situation.
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I'm sure A FEW guys will be put off, but probably not as many as you fear.
Scars wouldn't put me off. If I saw them, I'd feel sorry for the girl and ask her what had happened. I'd make sure to put in extra effort to make her feel good about her body.
Guys do care about visuals, true, but it's more "Does she have big boobs?", "Does she have a nice butt?", "Does she have a pretty face?", rather than "Is her body perfectly free of scars, stretch-marks, etc?"
I'm guessing these scars are on your chest area. I wouldn't even get to the position of seeing them unless I found the girl physically attractive anyway.
Not all guys are about the visual, of course we have to be attracted but we don't need a super hot flawless girl to be attracted. for many, what really matters is finding the one who would show a tremendous amount of love, who would wait for them her whole life if needed and would never get up one day confused about her feelings and if she really loves them.
You didn't allow yourself to get a boyfriend because of heart surgery scars? maam.. throw this idea in the trash .
For me .. if I like her face, her smile , she has an OK hair and she is not overweight . Then I would love to meet her.. if she turns out that she lost a boob to cancer or she had diabetes I would STILL like to meet her !
Throw this insecurity in the garbage now my lady :) and good luck because there are men out there that you are gonna make happy!
I had my appendix out last year and I was so paranoid about my scars on my tummy and thought guys would not want me with cause I thought my body looked horrible after the op and the scars. I've been with my boyfriend nearly a year and he said the scars don't bother him. He says he knows the op saved my life and he's glad to have me in his life.
I'm sure a guy won't be bothered by yours if he is he isn't worth being with :)