Erratic boyfriend behavior and breaking up?
On the 4th this month, I had bugged by boyfriend to spend sometime with me, but he's incredibly busy and haven't been spending much time with me due to tight datelines. It's his final year in university and is feeling the stress of being able to please me and complete his work on time. He previously called for a time out a year ago for almost the same reasons; I was clingy and jealous (he has a lot of friends) and he hated having to explain everything to me, where he was going, who this girl was etc. He wanted freedom to do what he wants, when he wants. I’m quite certain that he isn’t the cheating sort even though he enjoys the company of girls. I’ve seen the way he acts around them, and friends have told me that it seemed neutral.
I've changed since, but apparently not enough. I’ve somewhat stopped asking about these girls or I keep it short and sweet. I try to let him have his space by requesting that we meet at the very least once a week. I mean every relationship needs some kind of commitment, no? But it seems like me wanting to spend time with him has lead to his breaking point. He called me back on the 5th, and thinking that everything was going to be fine after a night's sleep (which is usually what its like with us), I asked if we were still meeting that night for dinner. He agreed.
He dropped a bomb on me and asked for a break up, for me to let him go. That the appealing thing about being single right now is his freedom to do things at his own time and pace, and not having to report to me about anything if he didn’t feel up to it. I told him to reconsider and not make rash decisions when he's stressed out like that. He said he wouldn’t change his mind and he didn't want to meet. He said that if we met, he would break up with me instantly. He asked me when my exams ended and I told him the 20th, and he said he'll wait till then to break up with me officially. If this was going to ease the pain, it’s no consolation. I asked him when I can expect a call and he told me, I won’t call/see you, until after the 20th but I’ll see you online and don’t have any expectations. And it ended. I tried to play it cool the next day and refrained from calling him or even going online. He called when I was out having dinner with my cousin and her friend, he asked me where I was, what I’m doing there and who I was with. encouraged by the call. I asked if we were OK. His reply; “it depends. See you online.” I never showed up online that night and the next day. He called again saying that he over-amplified things, but there were some underlying issues he has yet to resolve. I told him not to worry about this yet. Agreeing, we chatted normally, but there were signs of jealousy on his part. he asked if the guy was trying to hit on me and if I was contacting someone he thought I had chemistry with. hours before breaking up he was all over me, told me he’d rather talk to me than work on his essay, and that I was his comfort and therapy. please help. - heartbroken
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