Erratic boyfriend behavior and breaking up?
On the 4th this month, I had bugged by boyfriend to spend sometime with me, but he's incredibly busy and haven't been spending much time with me due... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
The guy cares for you. He sounds like a good guy but you drove him away from you. Guys don't want to be nagged at all the time. That's annoying and a turn off. Of course he is going to get jealous when he hears you talking to other guys, I mean he was your boyfriend. But honestly maybe it's for the best to be broken up. Sounds like you have a lot of things to work on yourself, such as your jealousy, insecurity issues and trust issues. It's never good to go in a relationship with those issues. You want to have a relationship where your confident, because it eliminates the jealousy and insecurities. So give him space, actually a lot of space. He needs to have time to think, and so do you. It's not a bad thing. Having space can let him do what he has to do and for you to have time to yourself and be happy just within you. And if you guys do not end up getting back together, then at least you will be more confident in your next relationship.
In general, we all like to keep tabs on our partners because we feel like we have the right to know what he's doing, who he's with etc but really we don't. They need to keep having their freedom just as much as we do.
What Guys Said 3
his feelings were just decaying, move on
It sounds like he decided to end this relationship a long time ago, but didn't have the balls to end it. He saw you less and less, got agitated when he saw you etc. It's a gradual breakdown of a relationship.
Now he's going through the part where he thinks he made a mistake. The next part is where he realises it was the right thing to do and moves on.
I don't think that it is all your fault as some answers have displayed. . . The nagging could get annoying, but from what you said, it doesn't sound like you are all that clingy/nagging. . .Every relationship does needs commitment yes. I think the whole seeing each other once a week thing is a little much; You should at least be able to study together or be with each other sometimes while he is studying. . . I think he is just making some excuses of why he wants to end it, maybe dealing with some anxiety. he cares about you a lot, but it may just be too much to juggle a relationship and school. . . He cares a lot about what your concerns are, and he also knows that he has to do well in school. .. its a catch-22. . . just give him space, let him figure out what he wants to do..if he doesn't want to try to resolve the issues then just let him go, and know that it is for the better. .
What Girls Said 5
sounds like its jus the same...he is stressed and feels that you want a play by play of everything he is doing. He obviously loves you but you need to back off. Go a day or two without talking. You know the more you pull away the more he likely wants you. Let him be, he is working hard to build a good life.
Personally, I think that he demands that he have the freedom to live his life -- without you. And that he meant it when he said those things about you only being his comfort. There's a lot of signs.
I don't think it's worth your time to worry about him. And I'm more than sure that this hurts, but if you prolong this any further, you'll lose him completely.
Just wait and see after his tests if he comes around again. If he does, he does, if he doesn't, then nothing you can do can make him come back...
Guys usually can't focus on 2 things at once, so if he is busy with studying, you're going to have to take a back seat to his work.
If you believe in God and prayer, pray to him to guide you and your boyfriend towards making the right decision...and at such a young age, we can make so many rash decisions, clouded by emotions or stress.
If he decides that he wants to move on, who knows, maybe your next boyfriend with be 100x better than this one...
Every relationship has issues> Every person has insecurities. If he is not willing to compromise with yours is that really worth it?