I feel like I need a change in my life. I feel stagnant.
I'm not trying to complain because I know I have a lot going for me in my life. However, I feel like I need a major change. Which is weird because...
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I don't think anyone can help you out of your funk mate, you just have to find your groove.
If you're not happy in college but accept you need to be there, then just get it over and done with so you can start your life. There are always options though. I don't want to sound like I'm a show off here but I went to public schools and never finished year 12. Now I have my own business and am doing a lot better than any of my friends that did finish. So don't hang your future success on what happens now.
Were you happy in your dad's body shop?
Do you have any idea what you want to do as a profession?
About 11 years ago a mate of mine and I packed up everything we had in a car and drove. Wherever we stopped was where we would be for a few months, found some work and moved on. If it wasn't for that adventure my life would have played out much differently. All I'm saying is, we were in the same head space as you so we took off and found our groove again.
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Oh mans, I know how that feels. I get rather antsy every few months/couple times a year if I haven't been meeting new people, or even just going something different from the regular patterns. Even if everything is going just swimmingly.
I have hard time calling friends up to hang out too, so I end up sitting in my room a lot, dinking on projects and such. I've been forcing myself to get better at it. Litterly telling myself "Come on now, they're your friends. They want to hang out with you. And you haven't talked to them in weeks. Just shoot them a message. It'll go over well. Worse case senario you'll still be sitting in your room, which is what you're going now."
But for the restlessness, for me its a travel bug. I really just pick up and go. Travel can be pretty inexpensive if you do it right and are OK with living cheaply. Something about exploring new places and when I travel by myself I find I tend to meet more people rather than being attached to a group. its refreshing and gives a little appreciation back to "regular" life.
The last time I felt like I needed a major change I decided to study abroad and took up a summer job seven states away. Those were some of the best 8 months ever and I can only my life there after would be a heck of a lot more boring without them and the friends I made on the journey.
All I've got for you is just go do something. It could be travel, it could be picking up ninja training classes. Just something to get you out of the bubble and around other people and perspectives. Gear it towards something you like doing, so its more likely other people you'll like will be there. I've found the more nerdy/specialized the thing I got into, the more and more the other people there were strikingly like myself. Its a strangely glorious thing I hope everyone experiences at some point in their lives. I'm on the odder end of how they come, so I'll be damned if there aren't 2000 people out there for you. :P
Anywho, its nearly 4am and I'm blathering instead of writing my paper. I hope some of this is resonates with you and you de-rut soon :D
I am in this exact same situation now. I just have this feeling like I NEED for something good and unexpected to happen. I just need any kind of change. For me, it hasn't happened yet, but I have found distractions from it. I guess what I would tell you would be to find something you're passionate about and do it. Take chances and try to not regret anything. I have a desire to just get in a car and drive with no set destination, like one big detour. Maybe doing that would be good for you. Just get pick a direction and go. Be spontaneous, you probably wouldn't regret it.
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