My boyfriend is nearing his 26th birthday, and he still lives at home with his parents. He was born in Russia, and I know that it is their culture to live at home for longer than I was raised here in America, but I am starting to get worried. I love him a lot but he seems like he has no desire to be independent, and I don't want to have to "take care" of him like his mother does. Whenever I bring it up, he keeps saying that he is saving money to buy a house as he doesn't want to rent, but he has more than enough for a down payment on a sizable place. How can I bring it up in a way that won't make him defensive and show him that I am only looking out for his best interests?
He knows what's best for himself. Back home, the young ones stay home until they're married or settle down. Let him do him, the fact that he already has money ready for a house means he's responsible already.
He explained his plan to you, and he is moving along down that path... It's not just about a down payment, he'll have to make payments, pay for insurance, water/electric, furnish the place, maintain his new home, pay taxes, etc. I don't know his financial situation, but he does. He knows what he wants and is trying to get there. Let him do his thing.
Umm. I think he needs to move out. I have dated eastern European men before and their mothers tend be overly mothering in the sense that they do almost everything for them, even when they become adults. They cook for them, do their washing Ect. He has it easy it at home (I'm guessing!) he needs to grow up and move out. For me personally, I would find this a major turn off that he still WANTS to live with his parents at 26. What is the line between waiting too long to become an independent adult and making a responsible financial decision...?