I feel like boyfriend is taking advantage of me. do I stay or do I go?

my boyfriend and I planned to spend tonight together and the entire labor day weekend until he called me last night telling me that the classes he had Monday (which were cancelled) would be moved to Friday (when he normally doesn't have classes). he NEVER said anything about me not coming over... Show More

side note: the way I feel I should be treated is as soon as he knew he would have classes on Friday he should have re-made the plans we had for the weekend and give me a clear idea of what his schedule would be like for the next week in terms of studying. I know him well enough to KNOW he will NOT be studying Sunday after I leave (if I go) or even spend the whole day studying Monday. I would be OK with going over and staying until Monday morning so he could study Monday.

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  • Well how far away is he from you? If he's an hour or less away I don't see how you see it a 'waste' to spend less than 2 days with him. Now if it's going to be a 6 hours drive or something, and you're going to be driving at rush hour, and he changed the plans last minute, then I can understand why you're a bit annoyed. BUT 1. it's not like he's ditching you for his friends or anything. He still wants to spend the weekend with you, just not the WHOLE weekend. His school plans unexpectedly changed, he can't help that. Also there have been so many times where I decline an offer to hang out with friends/boyfriend to study, only to end up not even studying because I procrastinate so much, so if this is what your boyfriend is like, I'm sure he actually does have intentions to try and study. 2. Did you even talk to him about this? It doesn't sound like he's taking advantage of you at all; if he knew how annoyed you were about this I'm sure he would at least apologize, and try to compromise. He's a guy, he probably doesn't even realize this has become an inconvenience for you. If I were you I would either talk to him or just let it go because it really doesn't sound like he's being a jackass or anything.