What do you do when your boyfriend seems like he's losing interest?
It's so complicated with us because his dad doesn't like me and told him he'd kick him out if he didn't stop dating me. Well now we're doing a secret dating type of thing and it's not what I want at all. He didn't stand up for me to his dad. And I've been really upset over everything because I never did anything or said anything towards his dad that would make it okay to hate me and come into his son and my relationship. Now our relationship is rocky at best. I used to be the number one thing in his life and now I feel as if I've been put on the back burner. He says that him figuring out a way for us to hang out once a week is his proof that he's trying but usually I come up with the idea he just has to leave his house. Which with the excuses we've got to use isn't a problem AT ALL. He used to call me EVERY SINGLE NIGHT and now the only way we talk on the phone is if I call him. He says I worry too much and whenever we have problems I want to see results in a week to 2 weeks and that that's asking too much. Why is that asking too much? When all I want is him to pay attention to me but he needs a month or more to get himself together to be able to do that? I just don't understand anymore. I love him to death and I know he loves me he's just not in love with me anymore. And I don't know what to do. I just need a lot of advice in this situation. Someone please guide me.
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Firstly, he needs to tell his father to get over himself and allow you two to be happy.
He does not spend enough time with you and this could be the main reason for the "lack of interest". My girlfriend and I went through a rocky patch recently and it had to do with her thinking I was not interested anymore. I have never stopped loving her and I am and always have been interested in her. We didn't see each other enough and that casued all the issues. I see her more now and it makes the world of diffirence. If you think that you must spend hours together every day, you are wrong. I spend 20min with her everyday and every other day we spend a few hours together. Weekends, well I'm with her the entire time.
It is up to you at the end of the day. If you can not get past the dad story or your boyfriend does not want to cause issues with his dad, then I am sorry to say, your relationship is not going to get better. I promise you, a father has more influence than you think. Use it, don't use it...
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Woah, wait a minute - daddy drama isn't just a girl thing. Hell, I've had forty years of intense father issues. So don't take it lightly that he's going against his father's wishes with you.
On the other hand, he's not really doing too much if what you say is true, about working on things.
Right now, you need to examine one thing. Are your expectations realistic?
Do you think he will be able to be the man you need, if he is either drifting away (which is what it sounds like) or his family situation is so demanding your future with him will be controlled by it?
Are you putting so much into it because you expect a return on your investment, a level of commitment he can make even with his family problems?
Examine whether you're paying into a broken piggy bank here.
That's weird I've never heard of a father telling a son to not date someone or you get kicked out of the house...
Sounds like your boyfriend using his dad as a excuse or you may give off the "bad egg" vibe
I don't know the whole situation but that's what I picked up from your story
What you should do? If you can't put up with his situation you can always leave
If a girl did this with me, and made no effort to be with me I would just move on
Hope that helpd!
The advice you will get you will dismiss, because this relationship is showing limited interest from him. Guys could not leave it a month, we would need to know all is good, so for him to not bother for a month proves limited interest and that he's not really that into you. So you either need to demand more from him, or cut your loses and move on and make room for a guy who will prove his worth to you,x