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My guy (let's call him Joe) and I actually have a back story. He's in the army. We dated for a few months a few years ago, and he suddenly disappeared. He says it's because he knew he was going to be deployed soon, and didn't know how to handle it, so he chose to just disappear.

A few months later, I was seriously dating another guy, and Joe tried to email me. We texted briefly for a while, and when I told him I have a boyfriend, we stopped texting. Throughout the 2.5 years I was dating the guy, Joe have been periodically emailing me once every few months even though I've never answered any of them.

After I broke up with my ex, Joe and I reconnected. We've since been dating since August last year (2014). I'm 31 he's 33. We recently became official this Jan 2015 so we've been dating officially/unofficially for 8 months. Purely out of coincidence, we live in the same complex but in different buildings. I have NEVER been to his place and he doesn't let me see it. However he's been to my place. He's never stayed over though since we have different work schedules and it's just a hassle. By the way he's in the army.

His reasoning for not letting me see his place is that a while ago he let his coworker stay at his place (apparently the coworker was going through a divorce and had let the ex-wife take everything including the house, so he had nowhere to stay, and so Joe offered to let him stay for a while) and this coworker is over-staying his welcome, even having his mother stay over, becoming a freeloader, and therefore Joe is too embarrassed to let me go over to his place. Joe also says he's doesn't know how to "kick" the freeloaders out so he's trying the passive-agressive way, which has yet to work.

I've told him I don't need to stay over or anything. I just want to see it for myself to see that he's not hiding anything from me. We've been to short overnight trips and stuff and he says if he has another gf, would he go on tri