Should I tell my girl friend I'm a transvestite?
I'm a 29 year old straight guy, who's also a fetish transvestite. I have never told anyone of this fetish including my girl friend whom I've lived with for 6 years. I do dress up occasionally but because I'm a relatively intelligent and patient I am 98% certain I will never be caught.
Recently I've started to think that maybe I should tell my girl friend about this fetish, but only for the reason of honesty and openness within our relationship. My fetish is for womens clothes, so I enjoy it when my girl friend wears her knickers/bra to bed, beyond this I have no real interest in sharing this fetish. i.e. I don't want to put on a pair of knickers and prance about. I've done some googling around this subject and I'm shocked by comments from women who say their cross-dressing husband has ruined their life.
My girl friend is a conservative from a catholic background. I can't imagine that she will act positively to this information. I have nothing to gain and everything to lose. Should I for the soul reason of honesty, tell my girl friend about this fetish, or should I leave her in blissful ignorance?
Thanks for all your comments. Based on what all of you have said I decided not to tell her.
Please see my explanation below.
Just a little more background info before I explain my decision. I'm a fetish transvestite. This means women's clothes turn me on. I enjoy this about 5-6 times a year, at carefully selected moments. i.e. when my partner is out of the country.
i.e. when my partner is out of the country. These sessions only last for 10 minute. i.e. I don't put on women's clothes for weeks on end, run around spanking the mail-man and demanding everyone calls me Susan.
If you google fetish transvestite there is a medical cure for the condition. Like all fetishes, some people become obsessed and this can have a detrimental affect upon their life. Electro shock therapy is used on these individuals.
I'm not prepared to have such a treatment for a fetish that I consider a bit of harmless fun for ten minutes every two months.
So, I've decided not to tell the girl friend because I don't really want to share this fetish with her any more than I already do (I enjoy her wearing her bra and knickers to bed) and I think it is information she simple doesn't want to know.
This whole thing started because I read a sex advice column in which the advice was given that "you should always be open in a relationship, even about your fetishes." If I did tell her it would be to remove my guilt about hiding this fetish;
after careful thought, I think this is a selfish motive. I would be substituting my guilt for my girl friend feeling betrayed and confused. I simply think its information she doesn't need or want to know.
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