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How bad does sex hurt for the first time?

I am 18 and I am dating a awesome man, and I want to have sex, but I want to know how bad is it going to hurt?

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thanks yall.

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  • It all depends. For me, it didn't hurt that much. I mean my first wasn't that big so it wasn't that bad. It also depends on the position.Here are a few tips-Before you go at it make sure to have plenty of foreplay, or else it'll hurt a lot more. Just get nice and turned on. Also, get him to finger you with at least three fingers, get things loosened up a little, that will also help. Finally, pick a position in which your vagina can be open and he can enter it easily. For me that was straddling him and lowering myself. It made it easier because I could take it at my own pace, I had control and I had my whole weight to help with the penetration.As for the type of pain it might be a bit of a sharp pain but if you go slow, get him to finger you well before hand and are wet enough it should be mostly just a dull pressure... Very painful pressure but once you stop it dies down a little.Just remember if it gets really uncomfortable at any time, stop. That's most important, NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS, IF YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND, NO MATTER WHY YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND, YOU CAN STOP AT ANY TIME. No matter what the reason is, no matter how stupid, the second you feel uncomfortable with what you're doing you can stop. If he won't let you stop then f*** him. At no point should you feel awkward or not okay or unhappy with what you're doing. If you're not comfortable you shouldn't be doing it. So if at any point, for any reason, if you don't want to any more just say stop. You should explain to him why because he may see it as unfair, so just tell him what's going on and try again when you're more comfortable.

What Guys Said 2

  • im a dude, it doesn't hurt me. BUT from witnessing my ex's, it hurts ALOT. but it hurts in a good way... REALLY good way..

    • maybe because you weren't gentle at all. and don't go blaming it on "nope. I'm just HUGE" because that's what every guy says.

    • it wasn't that. They all liked it rough... soooo, that's exactly what they got. haha. any further questions?

    • annnd for your concern, I'm actually not very big. I consider myself "average"

  • Who said it's going to hurt

What Girls Said 5

  • On a scale of 1-10 I'd say about a 6. It's a good pain though the size of his penis might have an affect on the pain you'll experience. Tell him to take it slow...I suggest the two of you do some foreplay (oral) before you guys start to have sex so you'll be wet enough, because if you're not wet enough it might hurt worse than expected. Don't sweat it the pain doesn't last that long and it's a tolerable pain. You might have some discomfort the next day but it's perfectly normal. Everyone is different so you might not have hardly in pain there's only one way to find out...lol Have fun and use proctection (:

  • it IS going to hurt. don't listen to what guys say, how would THEY know?but it's not like...going to make you cry. just make sure he takes it slow. a lot of guys just go at it and that's not fair to the girl when it's her first time. if he's gentle and doesn't try to do anything to quickly, it won't hurt much. it's just really uncomfortable.

    • okay thank you

  • Depend the individual girl but for me it hurts so much and I bled so bad. The next day I was so sore from it.

  • If you relax and are actually comfortable & totally ready for sex it doesn't hurt as much. It's like a quick pain but you soon forget about it

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