I know he slept with someone else?
My boyfriend and I are getting married next summer. He currently lives out of state, but we have never had any problems with the distance. He is...
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Really its your decision, but at your age you still have options and a long time to find another partner, just because you have built your life around this man doesn't mean that you can't find somebody else and re-build yourself up again. The fact that he hasn't said anything to you says a lot about his character. How will this affect you and him in much bigger problems in your future together as husband and wife?
The fact that your older means that you've done a lot of hard thinking to come to this decision and it seems like your just looking for reinforcement in this post. Because you are unsure means that you do have doubt about yourself and him in the future. The thing is is that he has a disease that will never go away, sure it can be suppressed to prevent other problems like Cervical cancer but that's something that YOU and HE will have to deal with from a day to day basis, and are ou ready to make that kind of commitment?
Not only that but if you are FOR CERTAIN that he has the disiese than you and he will never be able to have children you do realize that? THink about this long and hard, I can promise you that if you do decide to leave him, that you will find another man and move on and be happy.
What Guys Said 6
why would you stay with him,you want to wait till he does this again and by then you're in your thirties and desirable men won't want you. you have a very short window to get a guy don't waste it on a cheater
How do you know he has contracted an std. Did you catch it from him do you have the std yourself
Reading between the lines, it sounds like what he caught is HPV. This is a challenging one for women. The warts are the least of it. Some varieties of HPV lead to cervical / uterine cancer, but this is a slow process possibly taking decades. If you catch it is possible to have no symptoms at all until it is too late. See: link
So you say you "know" he cheated. But reading your answers it's just an educated guess, nothing more. You don't know beyondca reasonable doubt,sorry.
You say he's a doctor. If he has symptoms of an STD he knows it, and he'd be smart enough to know you can be suspicious. So even he he cheats him keeping his mouth shut doesn't make any sense. He would at least come up with a cover up story.
But if I take all your story as a fact (I don't), there would be a cheater never mentioning his cheating and STD to the woman he "loves" and a girl who wants to marry him but don't believe in confronting her guy about her suspicions even when it comes to life threatening matters as cheating and STDs... Just that alone makes the idea of a marriage between them two a big fat joke.
What Girls Said 5
He contracted an STD and STILL did not tell you? It would be one thing if he admitted almost immediately that he slept with someone else and came clean about it. But he still hasn't and he's risking giving you a disease (if he hasn't already). It does not sound like he's at all remorseful about this or willing to tell the truth to keep some of the trust in the relationship. If you marry him, this behavior will only become worse. The dating phase is the easiest part of a relationship. If he can't stay faithful now, he never will.
You can get HPV without being sexually active...How are you so sure?
Hold up...how do you know he's slept with someone else? :S
How do you know he has an STD? Did you get it?
He's lying to you, you're lying to him by pretending not to know...yeah, all those lies, that sounds like a good relationship.
I think you are blinded by love. I know you are CERTAIN but the fact that he cheated on you and didn't tell you shows he will just do it again...and again. You reallyn ever know and you should just be aware of that. He cries when he f***s you? And hides sleeping with others? And apparently tells you lovey dovey stuff? In all honesty I sense a sociopath in the makings. (Him)
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