Do your perceptions of someone's physical attractiveness change?
Imagine when you met you found someone physically attractive, and the personality aspects that originally attracted you are still there. Does your perception of their physical attractiveness change in the following situations?
1) You went out, they hurt you badly.
2) You went out, you broke up through circumstances (e.g. geography or stress) and remained friends.
3) You went out, it ended mutually, you remained friends.
4) You never got together, you became friends.
5) You became friends, you got together but did not go out, you went back to being friends.
6) You went out, but they turned out to have negative personality traits or habits you did not see before (e.g. posessive, rude to parents or service).
7) You hit on someone, they rejected you, you remained friends or aquaintances.
Essentially I want to know if physical attraction dies over time, if so how long, and particularly in the case of when you still get on with this person, does it ever die?
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
The physical attraction never changes unless her physical state changes (weight gain etc.). However, Although the physical attraction never changes , any of those situations you stated can make you have strong emotional changes which in the long run can overpower the physical attraction. If I was very physically attracted to a girl but then realized that she had negative personality traits (personality is the most important thing to me) I just could no longer be attracted to that person no matter how great her looks are. I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years , she has a wonderful personality and a loving heart ; I'm still as attracted to her as the day we met.
What Guys Said 4
not from experience but simply through reading, etc. YES physical attraction can change. Why, well on a scientific level within 2-3 years or so, our bodies start giving more (something, don't know what it's called) that makes us have more compassion/belonging/psychological attraction to the significant other. This is where we are comfortable, and don't go out as much to impress anybody because you already have the guy/girl. It's natural. If our bodies didn't do this then we would just be going to the next attractive person all of the time. (I admit, I think girls have more of this, let's call it "compassion juice" then guys do.)
Absolutely. The person themselves may still "look the same" but their attractiveness to you can definitely increase or decrease. Attractiveness is not an objective characteristic nor is it entirely determined by physical characteristics--it is perception based. Somebody who treats you well, or shows interest is more likely to seem more attractive than you first thought, while a person you initially thought was very physically attractive can look less so if they treat you poorly or you learn more about their character that you find undesirable.
What Girls Said 4
For me, I've never been physically attracted to anyone unless I got to know the real them. Who they are and what they're like. If the guy is a complete jerk I am no way attracted to him. When I first met my boyfriend, I thought he was kind of funny looking, until we stared talking and I got to know the real him...very sincere and kind. that's when I became attracted to him. I know it's weird, but I just don't let my hormones get in the way with what I know if that make any sense.