Because a man with no ambition is not only lazy but has no respect for himself or where he will be in ten years? I even steer clear of females friends who are lazy with no goals because people like that can drag you down. What could possibly be appealing about a man who is going nowhere? Even if a dude is getting an English degree to be a substitute teacher and will be broke for the rest of his life at least he is moving forward and has ambition. It doesn't make a woman a gold digger if she's attracted to men who care about their futures, it makes her smart! If he doesn't give a damn about himself how in the world is he going to give a damn about someone else? My most recent ex was a bussboy in a restaurant living with five other guys while putting himself through college. And I found him sexy as hell! Having no goals or ambition is NOT the same as having no MONEY. I will date a man with no money given he's doing something with his life. But if he's a lazy sack of sh*t? Keep walkin cause he'll get no respect from me.
I ask no man to support me so why should I have to support him? Eventually your toliet paper castle will get rained on and you'll have no where to live. Having basic necessities and even some niceties is not gold diggin - its just being practical. My momma always said "money doesn't buy happiness but it sure does help when problems come around." Your romanticising poverty and thinking it makes you above someone who is practical about human needs. Anyone male or female that wants to be poor I would consider a fool. Why would anyone but a fool want to have the hardships that go along with poverty? I've lived both sides in my life and I can tell you that being hungry is not something I ever want to be again.
Also, any woman that wanted children would like to know that if anything happened to her the children would be provided for.
"Gold digger" implies that the woman in question wouldn't be able to make the money herself outside of getting it from whatever men she hooked up with.
However, if we're talking about successful women who have ambition, goals, and the ability to make money for themselves, it makes perfect sense for them not to want someone who doesn't share those traits.
(And I don't think ambition/goals are necessarily worthless if they don't end in money. Humanitarian or nonprofit work, for example, I'd consider very worthy ambitions, as well as professions that pay badly but have a good payoff in other ways, such as teaching. If you don't have money, though, you better be able to manage what little you have. I don't want to have to support someone or share my finances with someone who's broke thanks to poor decision-making.)