My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over four years now. He and I are great about everything but lately I can't help but want to settle down already. We have been together for just so long and I honestly want a larger commitment than just boyfriend and girlfriend. I want to be his wife and have his child and live with him. Take care of him and his needs and just play that role. I know he loves me, I know he plans on marrying me but I don't feel like waiting around for it to happen. How do I get him to pop the question sooner?
I know that I am young and so is he(20) but I feel like I have lived my life to the full extent. I have partied, had my fun, traveled enough. I can't imagine anything that would make me happier than just waking up next to him every morning instead of having to sneak out of my home so I can cuddle up in his bed. I just want to be his wife, have his child & be a family. Most girls dream of being doctors, teachers, I want to be his. Completely. I've known him since 6th grade. I just can't wait
much more. I am willing to give it two more years just so he can finish some things up in school and well by that time I would be way done with school. I'd have a great paying job and we've been saving up. I don't know, I know I am inpatient but I can't help it.
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You initiate this conversation. You tell him what you want & see what he says. If NO, then it's your choice to stay or not. Don't wait for him to pop the q because he might not ever :)
Is he around your age (19)? If so, even though this has been a long committed relationship, this is still relatively early for most men to even consider marriage. I wouldn't feel that it's fair to pressure him until you're done college and working, and he's in the same situation, there's no rush for all that other stuff enjoy your youth.
good for you, a timesale is great to keep perspective. you sound like a solid couple, life is long with the right choices. At 20 there's no way that you're not going to change, I totally understand that you've lived to the max - so far. there are so many adventures for you both to have together before you really settle down to the family thing
personally, if I were him I'd run a mile after reading this. this is precisely why guys are scared off by marriage - your question makes it seem like his life is flashing before his eyes.
you're far too young to get married, you'll both change so much before you're even 30, why the hurry to "just play that role" be patient and let him see that he wants it too, in his own time.
"he plans on marrying me but I don't feel like waiting around for it to happen. How do I get him to pop the question sooner", you can't force him to do it any sooner - unless you ask him yourself, so why haven't YOU proposed to him yet?
Seriously there is no rush to get married these days, even if you were pregnant. Wouldn't you rather use the wedding money to have a fabulous cruise/holiday instead and really cement your love, maybe planning that would keep you occupied for a while? Just a suggestion, also there's nothing wrong with being boyfriend/girlfriend - a lot of relationships turn sour after the wedding - something changes.
you have your whole lives ahead of you, if you're that sure of each other then there is no rush at all.