What to do when girlfriend is away?
My girlfriend is going abroad for this upcoming semester. And not only abroad, but across the world in Australia.
We've been dating for 7 months now...
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Personally, I would consider both cheating. I'd probably tell her that if she is so concerned about hooking up with others, then we should take a break while she's abroad and revisit the subject when she returns. After all, hooking up with others is almost the same as being single anyway.
But what I think doesn't matter. This is all about you and what you are comfortable with. You say that you're more comfortable with her kissing a girl than a guy - does that mean you ARE comfortable with it, or it's the lesser of two evils? You have to be honest with her, even if she may not appreciate what you have to say. You two need to work through this together, not just do what she wants when she wants it. A relationship is about discussion and compromise.
What Girls Said 6
Coming here to see others opinions should be just that. Others may approve of things you may not in the long run. You'll have to do some soul searching, see what she would do if you were in the situation to maybe define your relationship more on both sides. Her leaving is going to be tough on both of you so the smallest things that either of you do could be a make or break situation.
Just think about what you could stay with her over and what would really hurt you. Best of luck to you guys!
The situation seems a bit weird. If she's faithful to you than she should be faithful to you, period. Couples survive long distance relationships all the time (like when one if in the army, etc.). If you think that you guys will stay together while she is away than I don't see why she needs to mess around with anybody else. The fact that she's bisexual doesn't mean she shouldn't be faithful to you, right? I mean in all honesty kissing a girl is really no different than kissing a guy, it still means the same thing, right? If you are really comfortable with it then go for it, but in all honest it seems a bit iffy.
A similar situation happened with a friend of mine. His girlfriend brought up the idea because she was going to be away but she pretty much reassured him that she wanted the option much like your girlfriend.
He basically felt comfortable enough to let her do that so long as she was open and truthful about it. I'm sure he also hoped that these hook ups wouldn't lead to anything more serious so he made sure to maintain the feelings between him and his girlfriend. Like you he was slightly more comfortable with the idea of her being with a girl than a guy haha.
She will do it, even if you don't want her to. She just wants some action. At least she's not asking you if she can get with guys and begging for jizz all over her face
depends on how serious this relationship is to you. if you guys are just together for fun, then it's fine as long as she doesn't bring home some weird pubic bug? LOL. But if you see her as long term material, then respect your boundaries and make sure she knows that these are your boundaries, and that it's really a take it or leave it situation. Personally, I wouldn't respect my man if he lets me get away with too much, kuz then he's just a push over in my eyes.
What Guys Said 4
ive seen going abroad kill a relationship
it all depends what your OK with. if your OK with her hooking up with girls than its fine. but honestly, the different time zones and how long it will be, itll make it really tough. there's going to be a lot of jealousy there.
maybe you should be on a break until she comes back at least?
that she isn't at all commited to you, you fool. a relationship is with one person, no exceptions. for god sake you people annoy me lol.
mate split with her, sleep around as much as you like and when you get back, get back with her IF you want to get back with her. cause as far as I see it she's saying, "i want to cheat on you without any consequences, you OK with that?"
if you are, then your tad weird. girl or guy its exactly the same in my eyes.
BTW keeping options open? oh come on seriously, you don't do that once your IN A RELATIONSHIP, kinda breaks the point of a relationship doesn't it?, when your starting to date a woman yeh sure but not when your ACTUALLY A Boyfriend OR GF.
mate its better and healthier if you stay committed and if your girlfriend stays committed to you, if that's not going to happen its better to go alone until both parties can stay together without the urge to cheat
She does not respect monogamous relationship which means she might or might not have it at some point in her life or have it and then decide to not have it.
What you should ask yourself is do you want to be in a monogamous relationship or not? And then decide if she is worth to keep.
Does your preference of a good relationship fit in with hers? Then yes if no well it’s up to you how you want to do it.
Regarding this situation she clearly does not respect a monogamous relationship with you because she either doesn’t want a monogamous relationship at this point or at any point in the future at all or because she wants one right now but don’t think you are worth sacrificing yet for it.
In other words she doesn’t respect you as a man if she wants a monogamous relationship later on but is not giving it to you right now.
For me I'd appreciate the honesty, but her going away shouldn't change the relationship if she's into it. Seems like the trip gives her a feeling of excitement and freedom, yet she feels the relationship is holding her back.
As for guy or girl, I wouldn't make a distinction if it wasn't alright with me. But it's your relationship and up to you if you're alright for her having some freedom, or whatever other options you have in mind.
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