You've been in a relationship with said dude for about three years. He is making good money. He has a great career and is well established. You...
You've been in a relationship with said dude for about three years. He is making good money. He has a great career and is well established. You live in his fairly upscale house and he drives a nice upper middle class car in a upper middle class/ middle class neighborhood. He works and you barely work so basically he is providing for you financially. You have a lot of freedom to do what you want. Both of you have shared credit cards, you put in some share in utilities and bills, you're linked to his bank account, and you have all your things there because you've been living with said dude for the past three years. Why would you have a wandering eye? On the look out for someone else when you have it made financially with said dude? What would be your reason? Put yourself in this situation and talk about why you would want to break free of your relationship with said dude.
For the most part, if I was dating someone who was financially capable of taking care of me but was not emotionally available or if I felt disconnected with him, I would NOT stick around. Also, just because a man is rich, doesn't mean he's the ideal type. It takes a lot more than money to stick around.
ALTHOUGH (I know this isn't part of the question), I don't think I could ever really let a guy take care of me financially. I would feel like too much of a burden and considering I can take care of myself perfectly well, it would be an imperfect balance.
I'd probably leave just because I would feel I wasn't contributing and was basically a dead weight. I need to feel like I'm helping and in that relationship, I'm not. I was raised to work for what you want or "earn your keep" as it were, and in that relationship I wouldn't be. I'd just be there. Doing nothing. And doing nothing all day every day is actually a miserable existence.
Because of all things I ever wanted in a guy money was never one of them. I really wish guys would stop thinking that's all women want. If the relationship isn't working,/we have nothing in common/ I don't trust him/I simply don't love him or know he doesn't love me then I don't hang around. A relationship requires amongst many things, love,honesty, trust, respect, communication, loyalty,I want to be treated as his equal not someone who money can be thrown at to keep happy
Honestly... you shouldn't be staying with somebody just for the money.. Honestly that's wrong.. lol you should be with somebody because you love them.. If the heart is not feeling it.. LEAVE. I mean.. yes you may look like a total B*** word but your more of a B*** word for staying with somebody just cause of the money and it's unhealthy for both of you to be in a relationship when one has a wandering eye it only takes time before they go and cheat xD!
It's not always about the money, or the nice things. You have to love someone as well. You have to WANT to be with them in every way, not just for the money. Some girls are gold diggers. They want the money and the nice things, but they want another man.. It's a confusing subject. Because it could go either way.
maybe she's not a gold digger and wants his love more then all the nice things he gets her, or maybe she doesn't comprehend how good she has it with him, until she looses him. Chances are, he would take her back.