I'm really upset that my boyfriend didn't get me anything for Valentine's Day. He said he can't afford it but I mean I would have been fine with just a letter and he knows that. I bought him chocolates a few days ago and that's what I'll be giving him today. I know he'll want to have sex later today while I'm at his house so is it okay to say no?
Is it okay to refuse sex on Valentine's Day?
What Guys Said 11
So you're trying to manipulate him passive-aggressively by refusing sex because you feel entitled to gits, rather than talk to him like an adult? That's unacceptable. If you were my girlfriend and you ever ONCE did something like that your ass is out of my life.4
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So, to have sex with you he has to give you something.
What other women have sex in return for cash or gifts?
Think about it.
I think that your boyfriend would be better off without you.3
Maybe you shouldn't offer sex as a reward for a change.4
It is always 100% okay to refuse sex.1
This is what materialism does to people...0
It's okay to refuse sex on any day, especially stupid holidays1
Yes its ok1
Sounds like you want to be single.0
If you want to create another bitter man on this planet, then yes.0
Of course it is okay.1
you can refuse sex whenever you want.3
What Girls Said 14
If your not in the mood, your just not in the mood. Sometimes when your having problems with the person you are in a relationship with it can make you lose interest in having sex with them at the time until the two of you both talk. But yeah it would of been nice if he did buy you something since you did the same for him. Nothing to fancy or big, anything thoughtful. Sounds like the guy is the type that doesn't like putting in any effort and you are more so the type to do everything to keep the relationship going.2
You are entitled to refuse sex at any time.
I do think you're being a touch petty about the gift thing though.2
I don't think the gifts should matter. Valentine's Day is literally just another day and if he doesn't have a lot of money, then you shouldn't be giving him a hard time. Yes, it doesn't cost a lot to get some chocolates or a card, but gifts aren't everything. I would much rather have sex with my boyfriend on Valentine's Day than receiving gifts1
Yes you don't have to have sex with him if you don't want too. Never feel obligated to do so especially cause it's Valentines Day. He should have got you something. If he couldn't afford anything he could have got you chocolate or bought you a card. They aren't that expensive in my opinion a home made card or written letter is much more cuter than a store bought one.1
You can always say no0
Even my LITERALLY homeless boyfriend was able to get me a couple flowers. no excuse, if he doesn't want to do gifts he should say that instead of saying he doesn't have money. Its the thought that counts. Even a fucking letter dude. That shit doesn't cost. You don't want sex, its your pussy girl! Of course its ok :)1
Your body your choice. Simple as that.0
I mean it's petty but you're not obligated to have sex with someone on any day you got him something you don't have to give him your body if you're not in the mood0
If he couldn't afford it let it be just that. It's okay. It's just a day. Sometimes guys don't think like we do with hand made notes and stuff. I think you'll make it worse holding out simply because you didn't get a gift.0
yes it is okay you don't have to o it if you don't want0
Sex has to be mutual and you do no want to have any sex you do not have to engage in any... it is okay to say no to sex..0
IT'S ALWAYS OKAY TO SAY NO even if your in a relationship!!0
Of course! Do whatever you want, girl! If he doesn't respect you decisions, he's not a keeper.0
He can't afford a card? Aren't roses like 25 cents! Heck. A Twix bar? Nothing?
Sorry I wouldn't have sex either. And I would keep the chocolates for myself.1
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