The joke is that we men may get into a physical fight, we'll punch each other a few times, then shake hands, and it's done. It's true, to a point.
Now, keep in mind, all I can say is from my point of view.
A) I tend not to hold long standing grudges unless someone repeatedly wrongs me or someone I love in some "big" way. I think that's pretty typical of guys.
B) Yes, we can seem "mean" but it's usually "trash talk." We get that it's a joke in a certain context. I tease people. It's not really intended to be mean; it's more that it's just a funny line. I'm brotherly, so I make brotherly jokes. Most people understand it's a joke, and if I think I'm hurting someone with my jokes, then I back off. If I'm trading insults, and I have potential to go too far, then I usually let them "win."
C) I see a lot of people, both boys and girls, who are pretty mean by my standards. I've had exes who have made some pretty "dishonorable" comments about others (that's partly why they're exes); I see a lot of girls doing some stuff my classiest guy friends would never do.
D) There's usually some unspoken rules for decent guys. They're often unspoken, but pretty straightforward; and you don't violate them.
I have a male friend who is like a big brother to me; and therefore, I kind of feel protective of his sisters (great women) as if I were their brother.
One day, this old guy ("a friend") starts talking about my friend's sisters in a pretty lewd way. I was ticked off. I immediately stopped him, and warned him that if I ever caught him talking about them like that about my friend's sisters like that again, we'd have a HUGE problem.
Many of us are protective in a good and healthy way. We'll stick up for friends who deserve it.
E) We're competitive, but some more than others, and I know a lot of girls who get crazy when they get competitive.
I know a few "good" girls who start screaming profanities that would make a soldier blush when playing, say, volleyball. I don't play either guys or girls when they take it too far.
F) Many of my friends realize if they've gone too far, and will back off immediately. If not, my other guy friends or I will get on their case. It's rarely come to blows because we tend to "get it."
If the guy realizes when he's wrong, apologizes, and backs off, then we're good.
G) Sometimes it's OK to have that pressure, and it's not really a big deal. Sometimes, it's not so fun.
I cried a little over Newtown. I would say you're a animal if you're an adult and you didn't feel something.
I like being able to distance myself at times, to look at things somewhat logically. I like that a movie usually won't make me cry.
I don't mind asking out; I know it's my role, and I've resigned to be OK with it; However, I don't like the cruelty I get.
I'm not hung up on who asked who out. If a girl does it, I don't think it damages society. I think more women SHOULD feel free to ask out a guy.