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There are stories every year where a transwoman won't disclose that she is trans immediately to the guy and they will go on dates and maybe do something sexual before the man finds out.

Guys reaction to this is often violence which results in brutal beating of the transwoman and in some cases an attempt at homicide.

For example, February of last year, an 18 y/o transwoman from the UK performed BJ on a guy. The guy found out she was trans later and then got together with his group of friends and stabbed her multiple times with a knife. She was rushed in critical condition to the ICU but luckily survived and now has trust issues and fear to leave her home.

"In January 2024, the girl was with Harris at his house, and while there, a mutual friend called Harris telling him she was “trans”.

“Having been attacked in the past because of her transgender identity, she denied it,” prosecutor Deanna Heer KC told jurors.

She and Harris then kissed, and she performed oral sex on him, the court heard.

Soon afterwards, another friend told Harris that the girl was a “tranny”, the prosecutor said.

She denied it again, but when Harris picked up a knife and said, “I’ll stab you if you lie”, she felt intimidated and admitted that she was transgender before Harris told her to leave."

Keep in mind, the men who engaged in sexual activity were not forced to do the act. They found what was in front of them as attractive and willingly took part in the deed. And while yes the transwoman did lie by not disclosing she was trans, do you think this reaction from men to go straight for violence with intent to kill or main is justified?

So I've always wondered this, and it's not mean to be inflammatory or offensive. But why do people insist that it makes one "gay" to be attracted to trans people?
Especially if they're "passing"? Or if they're post op, meaning a surgically created vagina for MTF trans women, or surgically created penis for FTM trans men?

I can kinda understand the argument of it being somewhat gay if they're pre op or non op (pre operation, no operation) and they still have original genitals, let's say if you're a man and performing oral on a trans woman who still has a penis doesn't seem fully straight to me.

HOWEVER, a lot of people still think a post op (already had top and bottom surgery - breasts added or removed according to their gender, and genitals surgically crafted into their gender of identity) who are passing is gay to be attracted to them. Why? At first glance, you can't tell for many that their biological sex, and even for pre op or non op, you can't see their genitals (unless they're naked, which most people aren't when you first meet them).
And I'm not saying people should force attraction or dating trans people. You still have the choice not to. I see that whole stigma in being attracted to trans people for fear of being gay (especially for men) and I've always wondered. I just think claiming someone is gay is a bit exaggerated at times. This isn't meant to harm or offend, I'm just genuinely curious.

TLDR: Is it gay to be attracted to trans people who are passing? Why or why not?

Do these trans women look like men? I doubt the average gay man would be attracted to them:

Do these trans men look like women? Again, I doubt the average lesbian would be attracted to them: