I don't get it all I want is good man that won't be unfaithful. It seems that the women that are in unfaithful relationships get all they want. Of course they keep on getting screwed over by their husbands. Still though they get to celebrate holidays and they get to travel. They also are able to have children and all be a pretend happy family. I know cheaters and liars lie and cheat to get what they want. So they end up having a pretty good life. Except when we want something good it can't be that way. This makes me want to settle. I dumped my ex of 4 years and now he has a new gf and he's happy. She comes from a nice family and they have provided her with nice things. Her parents have like two houses one of them being a cabin. They are travelling up there and will be having a great time. I can't deny it he's happier with her and he gets to enjoy everything he wants. When I left him I knew I hurt him but still now he's having the time of his life. Where is the karma in that? He will be screwing her over the whole time. While I'm here still wondering if I should've just dealt with it. He still did what he needed to do when I wanted him to. I was happy like they say ignorance is a bliss. The way I see it they see this world as imperfect so they've also just settled. These men still do everything these wives want when they want. So the wife is happy other than the husbands being cheaters. For example my dad walked out on my mom. He ended up marrying the other woman. He bought them a house and he's always worked. It's a perfect life except that he's still a cheater. These women knew these men were cheaters before they got married with them. Are they just thinking might as well settle. At the rate I'm going I probably won't find the faithful man I want. Life just seems best when were cheaters and liars.
Most Helpful Guy
This is a rant not a question.
If you want my 2 cents, I'd say get over it. Why do you even care what he's doing now or who he's with. Let him live his life, you live yours. Why be bitter over events from four years ago, it's only going to give you stress.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
This is something I have contemplated a lot! Would I be happy in a relationship that was essentially a lie? I think in the end, no. Even if you're completely oblivious to the fact that he's cheating, clearly he's not respecting you at all in this way, and therefore this lack of disrespect would probably come out in other ways too.
You also have to keep in mind STDs.. What is he bringing home? What if you ended up with herpes or HIV or something that you can't get rid of!
Ignorence is bliss, that is true, but could you live knowing that everyone else knows your husband is cheating on you and talking about it behind your back? Could you live knowing you don't satisfy someone enough for them to stay faithful?
No! I don't think you should have settled. You made the right choice leaving him, you're just feeling lonely right now and that's making you question this.
Once you meet the right guy, you'll never look back, and be sooo happy you didn't settle! :) Goodluck!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE