My boyfriend and I broke up about one month ago. We were together for over two years...
First, it was a mutual decision, but as soon as I got home that day, I regret it all. I told him this, but he said that he did not think that we should be together, he just wants a friendship :/
I have talked to him further about this and why he does not want to be in a relationship with me. He said to me that he enjoys my company and misses me a lot, but he does not want to be in a relationship with me! The reason why is that he thinks that the same thing that we did when we broke up, might happen again (the reason why we broke up was because we ended up more and more like best friends instead of a couple. I can admit that I sometimes took him for granted and so on, which make me feel really bad!).
As you can understand, this makes me really depressed and I can't think of anything but him. However, I still think I might have a chance of winning him back, since he said that he misses me. But I don't know...
What should I do? I tried "No contact" but he ended up texting me and asking me basically how I am and what I've been up to lately. This made me think that he cared about me and all that, but my friends say that he just might feel bad and wanted to make sure I'm fine so that he could sleep at night.
He told me yesterday that he just wants to be my friend, but when I responded that I can't be friends with him (since I'm in love with him), he went "what? why? :(" and so on.
PLEASE help... we talked about hanging out this weekend, so I need to know what to do... I know I want to look my best and act like a real quality girlfriend material, so that I won't enter some sort of friendzone, but I need more detals in what to do and how to flirt with my ex!
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I think that if you want a relationship with him, you cannot accept..."friendship". Sometimes it takes a person not having you around to realize that you are awesome sauce. If I were you, after the breakup, I would have straight up told him,"I'm going to need my space for right now. Maybe we can have friendship way down the road. But for right now, I would appreciate it if you would give me my space."
When someone breaks up with you, thats them saying they don't want to work on things with you anymore. You running and answering his texts and hanging out with him is only feeding his need to know you're okay with the decision, and that he can now keep tabs on what YOU'RE doing as he slowly moves on to another person. If he DIDN'T feel like he wanted the relationship to end , he would have jumped at the opportunity to work on things when you told him you loved him.
Right now, it seems like you want him more than he wants you...NOT good.
I recommend backing wayyyyy off. Even disappearing for a bit. How can someone miss you or realize their feelings if you're always in their face?1
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