In my situation, we were never bf/gf official, though we were exclusively dating.
At the time she had issues going on, and our relationship was something she didn't feel she could handle at the time and I struggled to understand this and ended up becoming insecure and clingy and this I believe pushed her away.
I truly believe that the split was for the best, and I've learned so much as a result, and am growing every day to be a more confident/assertive man. I know that I'm not perfect, and she certainly isn't either and was immature in her own ways.
That said, we never really had any sort of bad arguments and the split wasn't particularly toxic other than the miscommunication that led to me trying to push the relationship which she did not want.
Now I never truly found out what happened, and as far as I know she is seeing someone else right now.
I thought for awhile I was finally over her, and was ready to meet new people, and part of me still is and does want to find someone new. But a large part of me just wishes we would have met each other at a different time, when we were more mature/better ready for each other.
I just can't shake this idea of us being together again as more complete people who are better for each other, and I know that time isn't right now. But maybe months down the line or something.
It's just that we truly did have this connection and bonded really well, but it felt like circumstances kind of hurt things. And since we've split we haven't really talked, though have seen each other in passing and said hi to one another.
It hurts because I wish I could let her know that I still care, and there's things I think of and see during the day that I wish I could share with her. Or like wish her happy birthday when it comes up, or good luck on something.
Hypothetically would there ever really be an acceptable time for ME to reach back out to her since she broke it off, or would it basically have to come from her end?
- Girl and I were exclusive, circumstances complicated situation
- I was afraid to lose her, got clingy/insecure
- I feel timing wasn't right/we weren't ready for each other can't help but hope things could be different in time
Since she was the one that ended things, would it ever be okay for ME to be the one to reinitiate, or does that have to come from her end? Also is it bad to send any type of occasional contact i.e. a Happy B-Day wish?