Last year we began an innocent flirting thing (for about 6 months) but with time it became more. Added to that we were both moving away (California & Miami).
We realized there was something AGAIN and after giving it A LOT of thought we decided to give it a try, enjoy the time we had left and Secretly started dating. We both agreed we were against distance relationship and our thing was so new that didn't make sense but on the other hand we were practically in a relationship but without the tag, really happy and involved with each other. We never thought that could happen again.
This lasted about 3 months until I left. But we were really into it & continued talking all the time at distance. After a month he suddenly changed and that started hurting every time more & more. I didn't know what happened & he wouldn't say anything, finally I found out he was dating someone else (Publicly), the big problem: He began that at the same time he was with me, which broke my heart badly given our long history and huge friendship. His excuse: "I'll always care & love u but we weren't serious & I couldn't give away everything for you again & end up hurt".
Now he left too. We keep contact now since remained friends (for the old times) and he is alone in this big city. He texts me all the time & lets me know he still cares...
Even though he hurt me and some months have passed, i can't stop thinking him, missing him & he won't stop hurting. I find myself distant, sad and crying all the time. I put my best mask when it comes to him and everybody around me but i feel completely broke.
I know i'm doing things wrong but I just illogically can't kick him out of my life. What should I do? Help me!
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I'm sorry about this. this is pretty crummy.
the simple thing you should ask yourself is what would you tell your friend who came to you with this issue?
he supposedly is your friend, which should come first and foremost, and yet he lied to you for months. so that would make me question how good of a friend he is and what exactly is that I like about him, because it seems like what you grew to like was in fact a lie.
he's a manipulator, liar, and now that he's alone he's texting you because he feels he can pull you back
you deserve better. WAY BETTER. move on.