I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and its been a rocky relationship mainly because of distance and were quite busy people. We had a huge argument a weekend before were he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore and it was generally awful. Taken that we had broken up I started speaking to guy who I had blown off before-to make the breakup easier on myself to be honest that day.
My boyfriend called later in the evening and the next day, came over and asked that we try again that he loves me and he wants to work on things. but at this point I was still talking to the other guy and still was until he found out because I wasn't sure whether he meant it or was just confused. The conversation got less and less interesting because I was more taken by my boyfriend.
In summary later on he found the messages while setting an alarm on my phone and was very angry and told me he didn't trust me again which was true and other valid arguments because it was awful what I did but after 2 hours he immediately said he forgave me, that he'll probably drive home and miss me so he's wasting time being mad at me, he forgives me and we shouldn't talk about it again. and the rest of the time we were together we had an amazing time and even planning to continue to book a holiday.
Im very confused. I know what I did was wrong and Im ashamed of myself because this is the second time this has happened and its in the same same pretext in which we have a ugly ugly argument. He didn't tell me what to do with the other guy and I have immediately deleted and blocked him. before the argument he took pictures of the conversation with the other guy to hold as evidence and I think he still has it? and mixed with his response and his argument and his actions. I am very very confused. I need a guys perspective what is going on in his head?
Thank you so much for your time
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I think he sees your interactions with the other guy as being partly your fault but also partly his. Thinking that it was partly his own fault, he had the choice of beating himself up as much as you (proverbially speaking) or forgiving both of you equally and just putting it all behind him. As such, he decided to put it all behind him.